Kids Motherhood

50 Questions To Ask Your Kids Instead Of Asking “How Was Your Day”

50 Questions To Ask Your Kids Instead Of Asking "How Was Your Day" www.herviewfromhome.com
Written by Leslie Means

Now that we have a new baby in our home, time with my oldest girls (ages 8 and 6) is even more difficult to find. Between constant nursing sessions and shuffling kids to and from activities, it’s been an adjustment.

To say the least.

So I asked our writers to share some of their favorite conversation starters with their kids. These are especially great after a long school day when your babies don’t want to chat.

(You may also want to check out – Not Just Bedtime Prayers: 70 Faith-Focused Questions To Ask Your Kids Each Day.)

Here’s some of their favorites! 

  1. What made you smile today?
  2. Can you tell me an example of kindness you saw/showed? 
  3. Was there an example of unkindness? How did you respond?
  4. Does everyone have a friend at recess?
  5. What was the book about that your teacher read?
  6. What’s the word of the week?
  7. Did anyone do anything silly to make you laugh?
  8. Did anyone cry?
  9. What did you do that was creative?
  10. What is the most popular game at recess?
  11. What was the best thing that happened today?
  12. Did you help anyone today?
  13. Did you tell anyone “thank you?”
  14. Who did you sit with at lunch?
  15. What made you laugh?
  16. Did you learn something you didn’t understand?
  17. Who inspired you today?
  18. What was the peak and the pit?
  19. What was your least favorite part of the day?
  20. Was anyone in your class gone today?
  21. Did you ever feel unsafe?
  22. What is something you heard that surprised you?
  23. What is something you saw that made you think?
  24. Who did you play with today?
  25. Tell me something you know today that you didn’t know yesterday.
  26. What is something that challenged you?
  27. How did someone fill your bucket today? Whose bucket did you fill?
  28. Did you like your lunch?
  29. Rate your day on a scale from 1-10.
  30. Did anyone get in trouble today?
  31. How were you brave today?
  32. What questions did you ask at school today?
  33. Tell us your top two things from the day (before you can be excused from the dinner table!). 
  34. What are you looking forward to tomorrow?
  35. What are you reading?
  36. What was the hardest rule to follow today?
  37. Teach me something I don’t know.
  38. If you could change one thing about your day, what would it be?
  39. (For older kids):  Do you feel prepared for your history test?” or, “Is there anything on your mind that you’d like to talk about?” (In my opinion, the key is not only the way a question is phrased, but responding in a supportive way.)
  40. Who did you share your snacks with at lunch?
  41. What made your teacher smile? What made her frown?
  42. What kind of person were you today?
  43. What made you feel happy? 
  44. What made you feel proud?
  45. What made you feel loved?
  46. Did you learn any new words today?
  47. What do you hope to do before school is out for the year?
  48. If you could switch seats with anyone in class, who would it be? And why?
  49. What is your least favorite part of the school building? And favorite?
  50. If you switched places with your teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the class?

HUGE thanks to our writers for their awesome questions. Seriously, guys we could have 300+ questions to ask. The key here? Ask them.

I started asking these 4 questions to my kids each night and it has made all the difference. Truly. There’s no excuse for me not being able to get these 4 questions in – no matter how busy our day may be.

Here’s hoping these help start conversations in your home too!  

You Will Also Like: The Bedtime Hoops: 4 Important Questions to Ask Your Kids Every Night

 
 

About the author

Leslie Means

Leslie is the co-founder and owner of Her View From Home.com. She is also a former news anchor, published children’s book author, weekly columnist, and has several published short stories as well.

She is married to a very patient man. Together they have two pretty fantastic little girls ages 8 and 6 and one little dude born March 2017!

When she’s not sharing too much personal information online and in the newspaper – you’ll find Leslie somewhere in Nebraska hanging out with family and friends. There’s also a 75% chance at any given time, you’ll spot her in the aisles at Target.

  • I love these! As someone who studied to be an English teacher, I can definitely attest that it’s up to us to ask good questions if we want good answers! 🙂

  • We often ask many of these around the dinner table at night. We very rarely even get to the next question due to the discussion that ensues.

  • Karen

    This really does work! Asking your kids questions in a way that they cant answer just yes or no opens up the lines of communication in ways you could never imagine. Around our dinner table questions we ask are “what did you do today to make someone feel special?”. “What did you do to make yourself feel special?”. “What are you grateful for?” And to end it off each of us goes around the table saying something positive about each other.

  • Stephen Bailey

    Make their Minds Complete, never fill them with doubt. Keep them interested, in all sorts, see them learn fast & grow confident, smart & healthy, in every way.

  • Leslie Fearing

    Basically pressure–for kids, and parents.

  • etaege

    Forget KIDS! This is a great list for ADULTS TOO!

    • Ranjan Pathak

      so what made you smile today

  • Cecilia Jangi

    36 & 47 are the same question

  • linked1

    All of which would make a normal kid want to run away from home because their parent is phony as fu**

  • My parents had thirteen children; all one at a time!

  • linked1

    I dated a woman once that used to ask me questions like this. I think if I had to pick a single reason why it didn’t work out it would be that these questions truck me as creepy, fake, and annoying.