Kids Motherhood

6 Mom Facts To Embrace & Be Happier With Life Today

Written by Jenny

 

Each day moms are bombarded by social media, the news, and other women on how they “should” mother their children, cook for their families, dress fashionably, throw a birthday party, and the list goes on and on. It’s no wonder that moms can be stressed out, over tired, and overwhelmed!

Here are 6 mom facts to embrace and be happier with life today!

1. Every mom has her strengths and weaknesses.

Some moms are great at making cute snacks, some are great at reading to their kids every night, others are great at sitting down and listening to their kids. Quit Comparing! Each mom has her own strengths she offers to her family whether it’s making healthy, delicious meals, saving her money family, or being a great listener. Your family loves you for who you are, not what they want you to be. Give yourself some grace. God made you unique and gave you the family you have for a reason, because you were the perfect woman for the job!

2. Parenting advice comes in all shapes and forms.

I remember being pregnant with my first child and being bombarded with parenting books, magazines, and friendly advice from anyone who could see my very pregnant tummy. It was even worse after I had the twins. We were like a circus show everywhere we went with people wanting to look at them, touch them, ask if they were identical, and tell me that their 2nd cousin twice removed had a set of twins, too.

People mean to be helpful with advice, even if it doesn’t always come across that way! Listen, learn, and make your own decisions! You know your child best, not some parenting “expert.”  Just because one person got a baby to sleep by playing a musical instrument standing on their head (ok I totally made that up, but you know what I mean…) doesn’t mean that one method works for all!

3. Your to-do list is never going to shrink!

You know that long to-do list that you always want to get done? I am going to let you in on a little secret…there is no end to a to-do list! Even if you mark everything off your list today, tomorrow will come, dishes will be eaten on, clothing will get dirty, and that darn list starts all over again! So go ahead and let the dishes sit so you can play a game of Go Fish with your 4-year-old or have a popsicle out on the patio, or cuddle up with a book at nap time.

Time goes by quickly and your kids will grow up, quit wanting to play games with you, and will no longer want to cuddle up on your lap. Enjoy those precious moments! The dishes can wait 20 minutes until you are done!

4. Your kids will love you the same whether you are an A+ Pinterest mom or a D+ Pinterest mom!

I am blessed because my kids know there are some things that I really stink at. This past year, my oldest was studying Finland for a school project and needed to make a recipe to represent a Finnish dessert. We chose Tiger Cake after some help from one of my cousins who lives in Finland.

We mixed up the first batch, baked it in the bundt cake pan, and when we tried to get it out, it crumbled all over the serving dish. Being the A+ mom I am, I stayed up an extra hour to make a second cake so she’d have a nice cake to take to school. The second cake was even worse than the first!

The next day for her project she took very crumbled up Tiger Cake and still got an A on her project. I was so embarrassed at how it looked! When she got home after school that day she said that her class thought it tasted so good they ate every crumb of that cake! She was very happy with her project and we had some fun memories neither of us will probably ever forget even though it definitely wasn’t Pinterest worthy.

Whether you are preparing a birthday party, cooking a recipe, or trying a DIY project your kids will love you the same whether you do it perfectly or not!

5. Each stage of parenting has difficulties.

As a first time mom, I remember thinking as I was shopping at Target, “This will be so much easier when the kids are older!” In some ways that is true. Shopping is easier. However, shopping with my older kids costs more because they no longer want $10-$20 toys, they want electronics, name brand clothing, and consume 5 times as much food as they did when they were little!

Whether you are potty training, going through the tween years, trying to figure out how to help your high schooler with homework, or waking up every two hours with a screaming baby, being a mom can be challenging. The challenges are just all different!

6. Moms need to spend time doing things that they love!

When is the last time you did something just for you? Whether it’s reading a book, scrapbooking, seeing a movie with a friend, going on a date with your husband, or going on a run in solitude, spending time doing things that you enjoy doing is important! Moms are wonderful and putting every person that they love before themselves but when they neglect themselves their tank runs empty and soon everyone suffers from it. Keep your tank full by investing in your own self-care and by doing those things that you love! (If you need help, each month I publish a free self-care calendar on my blog to help women take care of themselves! Check it out!)

Which of these facts do you need to embrace?

About the author

Jenny

Hi! I’m Jenny! I grew up on a farm in between the 2 small towns of North Loup and Scotia, Nebraska. I spent my childhood chasing cattle, laying out irrigation pipe, bottle feeding bucket calves and racing turtles at Popcorn Days.

My husband, Jason and I live on a farm south of Kearney and I am blessed to be a stay at home mom to 5 energetic kids and wife to my favorite farmer! Our oldest daughter is 11, our boy/girl twins are 7, our son is 5 and youngest daughter is 3.

I created my blog, Women With Intention (http://womenwithintention.com) where you will find tools for living your purpose, managing your home, saving money, simplifying, growing your faith, loving your family and relationships, and embracing the season of life you are in. I believe that each woman can have it all, but not necessarily have it all at the same time!

I’d love to connect at my blog, Facebook (http://facebook.com/womenwithintention1), Pinterest (pinterest.com/womenwithintent) or Twitter (@womenwithintent).

5 Comments

  • Sound like you are well on your way to being a confident mother! This is all great advice – how do I know, because mine are all grown up and I can sit back and say, “well done, momma.” Thanks for another great party this week. Great encouragement for all the moms out there trying to be the best they can be.

  • “Your to-do list is never going to shrink!” I’m so glad you put that on there. I think we all need the reminder! As we all try so hard to shrink it.

    It’s also so true that each stage has it’s difficulties. When I first became a mom I think I would fall into the trap of “this will be easier when…”, but it’s just not true! Yes, one thing may be easier, but something else will not. I do think that’s important to realize this so we can appreciate a certain stage once it’s over. Otherwise we are so focused on the new issue at hand that we do not take the time to think “Yeah! We got past one thing!”

  • I think my heart needed a reminder on all of these today! I really appreciated your tiger cake story – I probably would have had a melt down after the 2nd didn’t work out as well. I applaud you for sending the best option and and so excited that it was so well received!