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Adventures in Parenting

Written by Stacey Skrysak

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On “Black Friday”, I escaped for a few hours to take part in the chaos of holiday shopping. As I stood in line to buy some gifts, I looked down at my sweater, only to find dried spit up running down the front of me. I was oblivious to what I looked like at that early morning hour. Welcome to parenthood!

Peyton has been home for 7 weeks now. I haven’t quit my job, I’ve just taken a leave of absence. So, for the last two months I’ve become a stay at home mom. There are a lot of jobs that are difficult. My career as a news anchor requires me to use my writing and people skills. Putting myself out there in front of thousands of people could be considered a tough job for some. My husband is a carpenter and a lot of people would say physical labor is the toughest. Well I have to say being a stay at home parent is the most difficult job imaginable!!! And I’m really starting to question parents who say their newborn is an angel. After looking at my little princess, I don’t believe anyone!

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In addition to the oxygen she requires, Peyton has faced a few typical baby issues. Acid reflux, constipation…oh the list goes on and on. I even have our pediatrician on speed dial by now! There is no way for a new parent to be fully prepared to handle a newborn. And there is no book that has every single answer. There are days when Peyton cries for several hours at a time. I’m left trying to rock her, soothe her and calm her down. I’m not going to lie–there have been a few days where I cry alongside her. Not because I feel her pain, but because I don’t know what to do. It’s those moments when I have a new appreciation for every single parent out there, including my own. I’ve called my mom on several occasions, asking her advice on what to do. There is something about being helpless when your child is hysterical…it sends a shooting pain to the heart.

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But those days of going crazy are completely forgotten when I stare at a peaceful Peyton. I could sit and watch her sleep for hours. That perfect little nose, those tiny little hands, the thumb that sometimes finds her way to her mouth. I look at her and wonder, “How did we get such a perfect and beautiful little girl?”. In 5 months time, our miracle has overcome more challenges than most people face in a lifetime. It’s hard to believe those perfect little features were visible at birth, when she was barely a pound. My triplets were born more than 4 months premature. And while we faced a rocky journey in the Nicu, we also had a unique and wonderful experience. We got to see our little girl grow and develop outside of the womb. That adorable nose and perfect lips are usually only visible through an ultrasound. But for us, we saw her grow before our eyes. At 5 1/2 months, Peyton looks like and acts like a newborn. She’s the same size as the birth weight of most babies. So even though she’s approaching 6 months old, she is still learning the ropes as a newborn.

And while Peyton is busy learning to use her hands and hold her head up, I’m learning to go with the flow. The spit up and blow outs are all part of parenthood, as are the screams and cries. Over the last few months, I’ve realized that I don’t have to be perfect. There is a learning curve when it comes to parenting. And when Peyton clings on to me, I realize, she needs me…and that love is the best feeling a parent could ever have.

About the author

Stacey Skrysak

Stacey Skrysak may not be a native of Nebraska, but she called it home for many years. You may recognize her from her days as a morning and noon anchor on NTV in Kearney. She liked Nebraska so much, she even married into a Cornhusker family! These days, Stacey lives in Springfield, Illinois where she is a news anchor for WICS-TV. Stacey and her husband are parents to Peyton, their surviving triplet, who was born more than 17 weeks premature. Abigail and Parker are their triplet angels watching from above. Through her heartbreaking experience, Stacey has become a voice for dealing with grief, infertility and life with a micro-premie. Her triplets have touched thousands of lives around the world, thanks to Stacey’s blog “Perfectly Peyton”. Stacey looks forward to sharing the trials and tribulations of balancing work and home life, all with a little humor thrown in.

2 Comments

  • Wow what a cute little update. I always look forward to your stories. It gets tough when they cry and don’t know whats wrong. Hang in there all those days are well worth to go go through. I go through those days, but all you can do is just hold them close and comfort them after you have tried everything. You and Ryan are wonderful parents and don’t let anyone tell you aren’t. You all are very strong and keep up the good work. Closing for now. Praying for you and the family.

  • As I read your story my eyes well up. My 29 week twin boys are now almost five and we saw the OB that delivered them. I said “look boys, that’s the Dr. That took you out of my stomach!” One of them said “Mom, did you tell him thank you?” Wow! I thought. Everyday boys. Everyday! I see miracles in your story everyday Stacy. Praying for you for sleep filled nights, daily dirty diapers, and peaceful feedings.