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Defeating “The Too Busy Syndrome”

When was the last time you asked someone how they were doing and their answer was, "Busy!" There's a new epidemic going around our society. It has hurt families and friendships because there isn't enough time to give either one. It leaves little time for our own self-care and nurturing. It is trying to destroy home cooked meals and the sit down dinner!
Written by Jenny

When was the last time you asked someone how they were doing and their answer was, “Busy!”

There’s a new epidemic going around our society. It has hurt families and friendships because there isn’t enough time to give either one. It leaves little time for our own self-care and nurturing. It is trying to destroy home cooked meals and the sit down dinner!

Symptoms include not having time to have a tea party with your daughter because you have sports practices, not having time to play catch with your son because of an after school activity, and not having date night with your husband because the kids have activities at 2 different places and you have to divide and conquer to get everything done before bedtime only to find yourself crashing after the kids are in bed, worn out and unfulfilled.

Many of the symptoms could be avoided if we only allowed for some time to rest, unwind, and just be. We all get the same 24 hours in a day. What we do depends on us.

When was the last time you:

had friends over for a barbecue?
sat down and did a craft or make cookies with your kids?
had a “girls day”?
went on a date with your significant other?
read a book?
worked on a hobby?
exercised?
The “Too Busy Syndrome” robs us of our health, joy, and the things we love.

Have you fallen into this trap, too?

The worst part is that most of us mistake the “Too Busy Syndrome” as a sickness and instead wear it as a badge of honor! We aren’t satisfied unless we can get empathy from a friend for our busy schedules!

I’m not proud to admit that I’ve worn that badge, too. It didn’t take long to see the side effects of the “Too Busy Syndrome” in my family. My kids were exhausted, cranky, and whiny. My husband and I were arguing over petty things that we had never argued over before. I hadn’t seen my friends in far too long. The list could go on and on, and the side effects were bad!

I shamefully admit that I’ve answered that I was “too busy” to sit down and read bedtime stories because one of the kids’ practices had taken too long, rushing my kids into bed!

It wasn’t until one of the girls cried that “all I want to do is stay home and play with my Barbies” that it really hit me how the “Too Busy Syndrome” was destroying happiness in my family (and I’m sure many others).

It’s time for that to stop! It’s time to shelf the activities that don’t bring our families joy and to focus on the things that do. Our kids deserve to have time to ride their bikes, play Barbies, and have bedtime stories but we are going to have to come together and start saying, “NO” to the “Too Busy Syndrome.”  

Do you suffer from the “Too Busy Syndrome” or know others that do? What is one way you are not letting the “Too Busy Syndrome” into your household?

About the author

Jenny

Hi! I’m Jenny! I grew up on a farm in between the 2 small towns of North Loup and Scotia, Nebraska. I spent my childhood chasing cattle, laying out irrigation pipe, bottle feeding bucket calves and racing turtles at Popcorn Days.

My husband, Jason and I live on a farm south of Kearney and I am blessed to be a stay at home mom to 5 energetic kids and wife to my favorite farmer! Our oldest daughter is 11, our boy/girl twins are 7, our son is 5 and youngest daughter is 3.

I created my blog, Women With Intention (http://womenwithintention.com) where you will find tools for living your purpose, managing your home, saving money, simplifying, growing your faith, loving your family and relationships, and embracing the season of life you are in. I believe that each woman can have it all, but not necessarily have it all at the same time!

I’d love to connect at my blog, Facebook (http://facebook.com/womenwithintention1), Pinterest (pinterest.com/womenwithintent) or Twitter (@womenwithintent).

1 Comment

  • You are stepping on toes. HA! I am retired and for two months I was bored. Now I’m too busy but love every moment even though sometimes I just need a down day but with blogging it doesn’t seem to happen. I started substitute teaching, volunteer for the world’s largest on-line Bible study, blog and keep my two grandsons a couple of days a week, but I do read those boys books, take them on long walks in the neighborhood, and get in the floor and play toys. I have been too busy to have my neighbor ladies over for coffee/tea but trying to do that at least in the summer. Great post.