Grief Health Inspiration Journal Mental Health/Wellness Relationships Suicide

Healing Through Blogging: An Unexpected Sisterhood

Healing Through Blogging: An Unexpected Sisterhood www.herviewfromhome.com
Written by Bailey Koch

Well, here I am. It has been a couple years since I began sharing our journey of my husband’s battle with severe depression and suicidal thoughts and attempts through blogging here on Her View From Home and on our personal blog. And in that time, I have been fortunate enough to witness the blogging world absolutely blowing up. New writers are emerging daily, stories are getting national attention from people who never believed they could make a difference, and healing is happening.

Why? Because blogging online allows us all to have a voice, a chance to help and connect with others who may be empathetic to our current situations.

Not everyone understands the healing we writers are experiencing. Some are annoyed by the “overshare” of information. And that’s okay; we are all entitled to our own likes, dislikes, and comfort zones. 

So if you don’t want to read our posts, then don’t. Our blogs make it to the people who need to read them.

Social media world can be pretty brutal at times. I actually had someone comment to me on a blog that I need to sit down and shut up because I clearly know nothing about suicide since my husband’s still alive. She wrote, “Anyone who really wants to commit suicide will succeed. Your husband is clearly just trying to get attention.” Wow. It hurt for a millisecond until I remembered to focus on the thousands of people we have helped to understand the reality of mental illness, not the one person hiding behind a computer and clearly struggling with something herself. So I chose to focus on the good. And as a writer, I know I’m not alone. Many of my blogger friends have been hurt by online negativity as well. I now have a very strict rule of never reading comments on public sites.

I believe words have both the power to heal and to hurt, so we must be just as careful with our fingers as with our tongues in this ever-changing world. We also have to learn to filter out the negativity from those who choose to allow it to consume their lives.

Here at my blogging home, we have a behind-the-scenes Facebook group where we are all able to know one another, share ideas, and support posts. It’s humbling and so beautiful to watch this sisterhood continue to grow. There are literally hundreds more writers in our sisterhood than were here when I began writing. This is where I’ve watched women gather up the courage to share their heartbreaks, terrors, triumphs, and mistakes with completely pure intentions of helping others and of healing themselves. This is where I’ve learned the true intentions of bloggers. So while social media world can be brutal, it can also be beautiful when you look at it as a way of supporting one another.

Online, you can do a search for anything you are going through and can likely find a brave blogger that has been in your situation and chose healing through sharing. And while sharing is not the comfort zone for everyone to heal, reading may be. Learning that others have been in your situation, or have shared a similar situation, can help all of us understand just how connected we all are. It can help us see we are not alone and we have others in this world who truly do get it. That’s why we share. Blogging is an unexpected sisterhood. And men are joining in lately too upon seeing the sharing and healing. It’s a social media epidemic I am 100% in support of. So blog on, ladies and gentlemen. And thank you for your willingness to share. To someone, you are a hero.

Please share in support if you are a blogger or are supportive of this blogging world. Be proud of being an “oversharer.”

About the author

Bailey Koch

The story of Bailey Koch finding her love for and strength in writing begins with near tragedy. In February of 2012, Bailey’s husband was nearly killed in a head-on collision with a semi truck. As a method of getting information to friends and family, Bailey began a Caring Bridge page. Immediately, others began commenting that Bailey should be a writer. “Yeah right!” Bailey thought. “There’s no way I could do that!”

“Never Alone: A Husband and Wife’s Journey with Depression and Faith” was published in March 2015 and is written by Jeremy and Bailey Koch. It details their struggles with severe depression and the journey toward understanding their purpose, accepting help, and finding faith. High school sweethearts, Jeremy and Bailey know their lives were meant for each other and to help others by being honest about their story. They are proud parents of two beautiful, and often rambunctious, boys. Hudson and Asher are 10 and 7 years old. You can learn more about their journey and even purchase the eBook or paperback copy of “Never Alone” at www.jeremyandbailey.com.

Jeremy and Bailey found their purpose in helping others find hope when suffering from a disability, especially unseen illnesses like depression. Jeremy, who suffers from suicidal thoughts, continues to learn to live, not simply stay alive, through hope from God and the acceptance of help. Bailey is his biggest supporter and left her teaching job, after being in public education for seven years, to focus on what the two know to be God’s plan. Bailey now works as a Lecturer in Teacher Education at the University of Nebraska at Kearney and will graduate with her doctoral degree in Special Education from Walden University sometime in 2018. Jeremy and Bailey co-own and operate Natural Escapes, a landscaping and greenhouse services business that also includes a paint your own pottery and canvas family art studio. The passion to advocate for those who can’t easily advocate for themselves is strong. Bailey has a message of hope and acceptance for all; she has plans to completely demolish the societal stigma attached to mental illness.