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Her Tuesday Column; Dating was fun but I’m glad it’s over

Written by Leslie Means

Written By:  Leslie Means

I haven’t dated in years; more like a decade.  I snagged a pretty amazing guy but it wasn’t because of my dating abilities.  Someone much larger was looking out for me on the day, out of a whim, I decided to give Kyle a call.

Thinking back, it was actually the easiest call I’ve ever made.

I’ve talked about that phone call before, but to refresh your memory – it was made during a spring break trip to New York City back in 2003.  I was so excited when we landed I decided to call someone – anyone.

I chose to chat with Kyle.

We weren’t dating yet but there was something there.  We had been friends for a while and for some reason on that late March evening, out of all the people I could share my excitement with, I chose him.  I didn’t even think twice.  I just dialed his number.

My phone call to him interrupted a conversation he was having back in Nebraska with his brother and good friend.  The topic of that conversation?

Me.

We were thinking about each other at the exact same moment.  We were meant to be.

It all reads a bit like a sappy, cheesy, low budget Lifetime movie.  I will admit – I like those movies and this would be a good one.  Especially since I had plenty of bad happen before the good phone call.  Everyone likes a “good triumphs bad” love story. 

I think it is rare to find “the one” on your first try.  To be really honest, I’m not sure I would want to.  How would I have known how great Kyle was if I didn’t have a few heartbreaks first?

This is what I’m trying to tell a good friend of mine.  She was with a guy for a long time and has had a difficult transition period.  The big “D” word makes her a little nervous and rightfully so.  A few weeks ago I ventured out with her to an event to say, “hey” to a cute guy she’s had her eyes on.  When we walked by him, I thought I was going to pee my pants.

I was so nervous for her!  Seriously.

She did a great job while I was a hot mess.  Honestly, I was in crumbles.  My heart began to race and every inch of my being wanted to curl up in a ball and hide from this madness called, “dating.”

I counted my blessings right then and there, thankful to have that part of my life complete.  It was a good reminder for me to not take my relationship with Kyle for granted.  I’m lucky and I know it.

I want to tell this friend to “just get out there.”  Or, “try online dating – I’m sure it’s safe by now.”  Or – “Everything will be fine, you’ll meet someone, I just know it.”

But the hard truth?  I don’t know.  I really don’t know.  How is it I found my guy?  How did I know to make that phone call?  Why me?

The only answer I can give her is this.  When the right person comes along, whoever that may be – there’s a good chance you’ll just know it.  Every ounce of your being will want to be with that person.  It will indeed be the easiest decision you’ve ever made. 

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About the author

Leslie Means

Leslie is the co-founder and owner of Her View From Home.com. She is also a former news anchor, published children’s book author, weekly columnist, and has several published short stories as well.

She is married to a very patient man. Together they have two pretty fantastic little girls ages 8 and 6 and one little dude born March 2017!

When she’s not sharing too much personal information online and in the newspaper – you’ll find Leslie somewhere in Nebraska hanging out with family and friends. There’s also a 75% chance at any given time, you’ll spot her in the aisles at Target.