Written by Heather Riggleman
“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength,” is something I often tell myself through the challenges of motherhood. During a rare outing with my kids (my rug rats aren’t really allowed in public yet), we were at the mall and I was trying to complete a purchase while I gave Elijah the ‘mom look’, and several verbal warnings to stop acting like an uncivilized heathenish monkey. Instead of complying, he batted his big blue eyes and told me,
“No way, I’m bored you mad cow,” to which I mentally noted, no more Loony Tune Cartoons.
Taking several deep breaths, I began paraphrasing ‘my strength’ verse in hopes I would have the strength to stay calm and not throttle this beloved babe in public. The cashiers doubled over in laughter after watching me get on eye level with my son and telling him,
“Young man, I’m beginning to lose my patience. If I lose my patience, that means Mommy is going to need a very long time-out. And if Mommy gets a long time-out, you will also get a time-out, have I made myself clear?”
Apparently the idea of moms getting time-out’s is funny. I don’t see the funniness in it at all. Jesus took time-outs away from his disciples and family in order to be closer to God, to clear his head, and to pray. If the Son of God purposely took regular time-outs, why shouldn’t we as mothers? I recently read in a James Dobson book that moms should take at least one time-out a week, and yet we as mothers feel guilty doing it.
Why should we feel guilty when we all know the end result of a time-out is rest, clarity, collected saneness, and maybe a cute outfit or two? After all, Jesus withdrew often, taking time-outs to clear his head, collect his thoughts and spend time with God Almighty. When we follow this example, we have our sanity and God’s peace.
The next time you find yourself threatening your child with a time-out, make a mental note to plan one for yourself this week. I know I will!
Then because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” Mark 6:31