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I hope he asks her dad…

Written by Leslie Means

Written By:  Leslie Means

“You look handsome,” I beamed to Kyle as he picked me up for our Friday night date. 

In the back of my mind I knew – or at least secretly hoped, tonight would be the big night.

“Where are you taking me?” I asked.

He smiled and started driving north. 

Moments later we arrived at the local vineyard.  It was a gorgeous crisp, late spring evening.  We sampled various flavors until we finally settled on the perfect bottle.

“Let’s take this to the top of that hill,” Kyle said. 

We walked, hand in hand for several minutes until we reached the top.  Upon arrival I found a table set with flowers, candles and my favorite foods.  There was also a note written in a black binder.  Kyle picked it up and began to read.    

“Sometimes love comes quietly.  For her and I, that quiet love has developed into a feeling so true,” he stated. 

“This is it,” I thought, beaming with excitement.  “I know Kyle is going to propose at the end of this story.”  I was giddy with emotion.  It was a perfect night, with a perfect view and the perfect guy.

“There is no doubt in my mind that I have finally found the love of a lifetime,” Kyle said closing the book he had just written to me.  Then he got down on one knee and asked the question so many girls wait for their entire lives.

“Will you marry me, Leslie?”

I held his hand in mine, looked up into his gorgeous blue eyes and said,

“Did you ask my dad?”

9 years later, I realize that is probably not the first thing a guy wants to hear out of his girls mouth seconds after a marriage proposal.  Fortunately for Kyle he responded with a, “yes, Les, I did.”

To which I responded, “of course, I will marry you.”

Later I learned Kyle made the trip from Lincoln to my parent’s farm near Bladen on a whim, simply to ask my dad for my hand in marriage.  At that point I knew Kyle was a keeper.

In the 30 years I’ve known my father, not once have I heard him raise his voice.  Not once.  He’s soft spoken, (unlike his youngest daughter) patient, considerate, private, hardworking and incredibly kind.  He probably doesn’t realize how high he set the bar for me during my quest to find the perfect man.

“What made you choose Kyle?” dad asked a few months after the proposal.

Embarrassed and surprised by the question I responded, “I don’t know.  I guess I just knew he was the right one.”

Even though my heart wanted to say, “I chose Kyle because he’s just like you, dad.  For years I had been searching for a man with the same qualities.  That’s how I knew he was the one.”

Watching Kyle with our girls solidifies the decision I made 9 years ago.  When he walks in the door they run to him, excited for his attention.  They ask him to read stories each night and tuck them into bed.  They want their daddy to play outside and take them for ice cream.  In their mind, he can do no wrong.  I’m fairly certain if you would ask, they would say Daddy is their favorite.  

And that’s OK.  In fact, I think it’s pretty much perfect.  I want my girls to have very high standards when they begin to date.  And someday when the time comes for them to make one of the biggest decisions in their lives, I hope they say,

“Did you ask my dad?”

If the guy responds with an, “of course I did,” there’s a pretty good chance he’ll be a keeper too.

Happy Father’s Day week to my two favorite guys! 

I don’t know how I got so lucky. 

Read more columns from Leslie in the Kearney Hub.

 

 My dad, Keith – swings with my girls.

Kyle and Gracie..

Kyle with Ella – last year on Father’s Day during their annual fishing trip.

 

About the author

Leslie Means

Leslie is the co-founder and owner of Her View From Home.com. She is also a former news anchor, published children’s book author, weekly columnist, and has several published short stories as well.

She is married to a very patient man. Together they have two pretty fantastic little girls ages 8 and 6 and one little dude born March 2017!

When she’s not sharing too much personal information online and in the newspaper – you’ll find Leslie somewhere in Nebraska hanging out with family and friends. There’s also a 75% chance at any given time, you’ll spot her in the aisles at Target.

8 Comments

  • Love this, Leslie! I laughed at your response to his proposal. While my husband and dad aren’t exactly alike, they have some similar qualities, which make them really good friends. And BTW, he didn’t ask my dad, but my dad still let him marry me anyway! 😉

  • I loved reading your story, it was so sweet and romantic. Sounds like you married a great guy with wonderful qualties. Way to go!! 🙂

  • I think that I will say the same thing that you did. I always call my dad first for advice and obviously use him as an example as how I think things should be done. My father told me once that I should probably stop “quoting Dad” to my current boyfriend. : ) I know that my boyfriend is a wonderful man though, because amongst many other reasons, he respects what my dad has to say and appreciates to his advice.

    • yes – at some point I need to realize things don’t always have to be done the EXACT same way as when I grew up. He doesn’t have to be (and shouldn’t) be JUST like my dad. But seeing similar qualities is big in my book. 🙂