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I’m good with God – but thanks for the prayers

Written by Leslie Means

Written By:  Leslie Means

I usually keep politics and religion out of my columns.  I had enough of that during my TV years.  Plus, I don’t think my opinion is all that important.  Who am I to say one president is better than the other?  Or that the way you live is wrong?

Eh – it’s not really my thing anymore.

It’s why I keep most of my writings personal and random.  You can’t mess up the facts when you’re talking about yourself and there’s a slim chance you’ll tick anyone off.

But there’s always a chance. 

Last week I received an e-mail from you.  I’ve talked about these e-mails before – the good and the bad.  I expect them.  I open myself up to the world and you all have every right to chat with me.  And I like it when we talk.  It makes me feel like I’m not just talking to myself.

But sometimes, they leave me pondering things.  This e-mail did just that.

I read it and went on with my day.  But as I sat down to write this week’s column, I couldn’t get your e-mail out of my head.  I tired – boy did I try.  I even wrote an entirely different column about the grocery store.  It was simple, non-controversial and personal; just how I like it.

 But your words got to me.  Not in a bad way, just in a – I need to talk about this – sort of way.  And now I am going to break my – don’t talk about religion or politics – rule.  I feel like it’s time.  We’ll chat about this once and then move on.  Ready?  Here goes.

In your e-mail to me you said, “Leslie, I am concerned about your faith or lack of. I read your self-written obituary.  I don’t see any sign of faith in your writings.”

You went on to say you were praying for me as well.

Which is good – because we can all use extra prayers.

But I’m wondering how you came to this conclusion.  You have every right to form an opinion about me, but your opinion is inaccurate.  I don’t like inaccuracy – so I’m here to clear the waters.  Here is my response. 

“Dear Concerned,

Thank you for your e-mail.  Maybe the self-written obituary I wrote a few months back helped you form a negative opinion of me.  I can see that.  It was kind of scary.  Perhaps the fact that I talk about wine and Bon Jovi music is a concern.  Duly noted.  But I want you to know that I’m good with God.  We’re buds and I think he’s pretty awesome.  We talk on a regular basis and have grown close during my 31 years.  Yes, I could learn more about him.  And clearly I could do a better job sharing him with others. 

I think it’s fantastic that you are the type of person who prays for strangers.  We should all do that.  And I appreciate your mission to share God’s word.  That’s important.  But I’m more of a private faith kind of girl.  You’re not going to find me quoting the Bible in my columns, or walking around with a flashy button on my shirt that reads, “I’m good with God!” 

Instead, I try to reach people who aren’t really sure.  You know the ones.  I think it’s good we have different methods, don’t you? 

If you knew me personally, you would know how important faith is in my everyday life.  I’m just a little more quiet than you and I think that’s OK.  I welcome your prayers and appreciate your concern.

Signed,

Good with God.

Oh boy.  I have a feeling I should have stuck with the grocery store column. 

Read more from Leslie in the Kearney Hub.  

P.S. – I don’t want to upset anyone with this article.  I just want all Christians to remember – that not everyone is the same.  There are far more of us in this world that are quiet with our faith.  And still so many more who are a little afraid of it all.  I think it’s good there is a wide variety.

About the author

Leslie Means

Leslie is the co-founder and owner of Her View From Home.com. She is also a former news anchor, published children’s book author, weekly columnist, and has several published short stories as well.

She is married to a very patient man. Together they have two pretty fantastic little girls ages 8 and 6 and one little dude born March 2017!

When she’s not sharing too much personal information online and in the newspaper – you’ll find Leslie somewhere in Nebraska hanging out with family and friends. There’s also a 75% chance at any given time, you’ll spot her in the aisles at Target.

19 Comments

  • its sad people cant just love people for who they are instead of trying to control their faith, I am open about my faith, but have learned not to make judgments calls based on something I see or read…. God is the only judge and see’s all and see’s in prospective…Sharing your faith through love is a much better way then to point out something they thing they see that you need to know!!!!

    • Lila, I’m the same way. We’ve been called to shine our light before men. Each time we encounter a situation in which we feel that prompting to share–its between us and God. I shared this past weekend why I’m so loud with my faith–its what I’ve been called to.
      I’m actually glad you received that email Leslie. Its given us an opportunity to think and examine our own hearts, after all other people’s opinions isn’t what really matters.

      • I think so too, Heather. You’re so right with your earlier comment about you getting e-mails about sharing faith TOO much, and for me – not enough. Why does it have to be one way or the other? Why can’t we just be in this all together?

  • Thank you, Leslie, for your brave post! I am also private about my religious beliefs. I grew up in West Texas, and my parents moved around A LOT. I went to three different kindergartens. In one of the schools that I started in the middle of the year was in a tiny Texas town. The kids gathered around me and began asking me questions about church. This was kindergarten, so I was only five. When I responded that we did not go to church, these five and six-year olds told me I was going to hell and so were my parents. They described hell to me, and told me we were bad. I had nightmares. This has stuck with me my whole life, and while I believe strongly in God, I really do not like being judged by others. It is okay for us to have different beliefs. It would be okay if you were Muslim, that is your choice. We are all different, and we all have different ways of showing our faith.

  • Oh Leslie, the perceptive of how each different person reads things and interprets them. I see you the same as me, us good Lutheran girls (set in some of those Lutheran ways) who love Jesus and our God just the same as every other Christian out there. I see you every Sunday in church with your beautiful family, I see you sharing your time and talents with our church, as well as Kyle. I know some would say, oh just because you sit in church doesn’t mean you are living for Jesus, but you, my friend, you are a true Christian that is well with the Lord and I have always admired you and your family. God loves you (and everyone else reading this!). 🙂

  • Great article Leslie. That is exactly the same way I feel. There is no faith meter for showing too little or too much faith and it certainly is not up to anyone else to judge you. I believe a big thing about being a Christian is in your actions, not just your words. Kindness, compassion, etc speak volumes.

    I see too many people who talk a good talk, but do not walk the walk. Just because you are louder, doesn’t make you better.

    I’m glad you have your own point of view. HVFH need people who see things differently, write different ways or it would get boring.

  • Right on Leslie – hugs to you. I grew up in an extremely conservative, evangelical, extreme right wing home, and it turned me off to religion. I’ve spent most of my adult years coming to terms with who I think God is and accepting the fact that it’s okay that some of my beliefs are different from those of my parents. In this quest, I’ve read a lot of books on faith and one of my favorites is a book about the theory that the opposite of love is judgment. When you are judging others, you are not loving them. When you are judging instead of loving, you can’t have a full loving relationship with God, therefore judging others is filling the void in their relationship with God. Some Christians like to use the “accountability” card to justify their judgment of others, but unless you know that person’s entire background and their intermost feelings and everything about them that makes them who they are, you should not hold them accountable for anything. There are VERY few people in your life who should have the privilege of being able to call you out on anything and unless it is done in love, they shouldn’t bother. Evangelical Christians tend to be in your face about Christianity. But in my opinion, the greatest witness you can be, as a Christian, is to love someone unconditionally, end of story.

  • I agree with this and all the comments. I have never understood how some people of faith condemn others for not being faithfully enough. In the end it’s between God and you. I often find that some people questioning their faith are intimidated by the overly faithful. Sometimes it’s the quiet faithfully who they need to help lead them. Great article Leslie!

  • Leslie,

    We all have our own unique faith life and no one but God knows what’s in our hearts. Spewing bible verses and shouting “Amen” every time you agree with something doesn’t make you holy. God calls each of us to live a holy life, it is NOT for us to say that our faith or our denomination is THE WAY. All we can do is live OUR FAITH, be an example to our children and those around us and when asked, proclaim!

  • Leslie, good job for having the guts to give your personal opinion to the world especially with SUCH a touchy subject! I wish I was brave enough to do that 😉 And I agree with everything you said! It makes me angry sometimes that people expect others to be open and public with their religion, and it makes me even more angrier when people push THEIR beliefs on others. Everyone can have their own, and they can keep them secret if they want. I do think it’s great that people pray for others, but when someone says “I’ll pray for you….” and they say it in a way that makes you feel like a bad person and a bad Christian, I don’t like that. If you want to pray for me then pray for me, but you don’t have to make a point about it to tell me and make me feel bad.

    I LOVE Her View From Home and always look forward to what you guys will have next! 🙂
    I recently started a blog (jessiejoathome.blogspot.com) and I dream of someday having such a successful blog like this. Great job ladies!

  • There are Christians and then there are people who claim to be Christians but somehow have idolized themselves into thinking they are doing nothing wrong and have to spend hours nagging people on how terrible they are. I feel very confident that God didn’t put me (or anyone) on Earth to judge others. I pray all the time. I talk to God all the time. I’ll pray for you to be able to not let this weigh on your heart-I’d imagine it’s hard to open your life up to strangers and have them judge you and not even know the kind-hearted wonderful person you actually are in real life-not just on paper…and I’m good with God, too:)