Inspiration Journal

What If We Loved Like Our Eight-Year-Old Selves?

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Written by Jessica Kromer

I worked hard for my money. I can spend or save it how want. I need all of the money earned. 

I’ve heard these statements thrown around in everyday conversations many times in my lifetime. The importance of money in people’s lives is nothing new. Somethings got to pay the bills, right?  

There’s a difference between being financially responsible and being greedy. I confess to the later. 

At 26 years old, I can’t remember the last time I donated money, time, or my talents to those less fortunate than I am. I’ve become too concerned with every day expenses, student loan payments, saving for our first house, and basically the financial security for our family. I’ve become too concerned with worldly possessions while losing sight of the people who need help; the people who can benefit from my money.  

This scares me. My heart knows it is not my money at all. So why am I so concerned with keeping it all to myself? These thoughts were on my heart for a while when my parents sent me an old school assignment that further opened my eyes.

The assignment posed the question to my eight-year-old self: What would you do if you were boss of the world?

I answered: “If I was boss of the world I would give food to all the poor people. Then I would give all my money to the poor people. I would give cloths to the poor people. I would give the poor people furniture. I would give a house to all the poor people. I would give the poor people all that stuff so they won’t be cold in the winter and they will be safe always.”

Two thoughts entered my head after I read this statement. The first, my parents did a great job teaching my sisters and I empathy. I started to remember all the acts of kindness my parents taught us. 

An example I distinctly remembered was taking months to collect as much change as we could find, and then bringing our bucket of mostly pennies, nickels and dimes to a local charity. We did this multiple times often trying to collect more money than the last. 

It is no wonder that my response included a lot of giving and loving others. Our parents instilled in us at a young age to always be kind and to work hard to give to the less fortunate. 

The second thought, wow I am being selfish and scared right now. I am not living like my parents taught me to live. I am not living like Jesus teaches us to live. The words I once wrote at a young age speak of giving all I have and providing safety for others. How can I teach my daughter to be empathetic towards others, if I’m not a living example.

So I ask you to ponder these questions today: 

What if we worried less about our bank accounts rising, and we placed more energy towards loving and helping others?

What if we only spent money on the necessities, and we gave our extra money, time or things to those who need it more than ourselves? 

What if we cared more about people, than what people think of us? 

What if we loved like our eight-year-old selves; freely and without holding back?

I know I am no where close to being “The Boss of the world.” I don’t think I’d ever wish for that title in the first place. However I, being the wife, mother, sister, neighbor, stranger that I am, hold the power to make positive choices for the well-being of all. I hold the power to give and to love without holding back. 

I need to change in order to be a role model for my one-year-old daughter. I need to teach and show her that even if you have a little, there’s always enough for someone else. 
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About the author

Jessica Kromer

Jessica Kromer is a freelance writer and mother. She is smitten with parenting along side her husband, Joel, and experiencing their first child together. Of course, a lot of coffee, outdoor activities and Netflix help keep the Kromer family afloat. These days Jessica’s time is filled with helping her daughter Aria grow and writing about all the experiences of parenthood. You can read more of Jessica’s writing at www.purposefullivingblog.com.

  • Jessica Peresta

    This is such a great post!

  • Whitney Lang Fleming

    Love this so much. Such a great reminder of what is important!

  • Sometime I wonder if young me would be disappointed in herself grown up. I mean this isn’t the person that I wanted to be. I wanted to help people and now I don’t, I cook for a profit, that’s not helping. Thank you for getting me thinking.

    • Thank you for reading! I hope you figure out a way to help others, like I’m trying to do now. πŸ™‚ I think your younger self would be proud in seeing you accomplish a career in cooking. That’s something, I couldn’t do!

  • GameOnMom

    I try to be more like my 8 year old daughter every day. She’s so sweet and thoughtful; I like her better than anyone else!

    • πŸ˜€ Our kids are our world, right? Thanks for reading.

  • Babies to Bookworms

    This is so true! I wish we could all remember to live like kids do.

  • The Gilded Wife

    Oh my goodness, I love this perspective! Viewing and loving life now with the heart of an 8 year old would make things so much easier πŸ™‚ not holding back and having that innocence.
    Your daughters letter is SO adorable!

    • I think making time and giving to the less fortunate will always be difficult, but yes doing it with the heart of an 8-year-old would be more refreshing. πŸ˜€ It’s actually my letter from when I was 8.

  • Angela

    I love hearing what little kids have to say. I think we all need to listen to them more often!

  • Meg

    What a beautiful article. It’s not what I expected, but I love your perspective. If we all gave just a little more, then we would be able to make such a difference in this crazy world. Thanks.

    • Thank you, Meg. What did you expect the article to be about? πŸ™‚

  • I love this! Coming from a slightly different angle, I spend alot of time donating my time and skills to help others, but I feel frustrated when other people don’t see the value in this and act like they are better because they earn more or have more money in the bank. Hate it! The world would be an awesome place if people acted like you would if you were boss lol! Katie x

    • Good for you for donating your time. Yes, I didn’t want this post to just be about money, so I made sure to include volunteering and spending time with people. Life for sure isn’t all about cash. πŸ™‚ Thanks you!

  • Belle Bermudez-Tubel

    Awww! This is such a beautiful article! Love your perspective!

    Belle | One Awesome Momma

  • So beautiful.

  • Ashley Markwood

    Amen, Jessica! I love this beautiful article – thank you for sharing!

  • Jasmine Gable

    Such a lovely post. We all get caught up in being an adult and finiacially responsible that we forget to give. thank you for the reminder.

  • Leighann Hall

    Aw, this was a beautiful post! I agree, your parents did a great job! Kids have the most innocent hearts:)

  • Abby Fereday

    I love the questions you pose! Such good food for thought πŸ™‚

  • The world would definitely be a better place! Kids are so pure

  • Sarah Blackston

    This is beautiful! We should all strive to live more like Jesus and remember that that includes taking care of those less fortunate than us. If we all loved like this, the world would be a much different place.

    • So true. The world would be a much better place if we loved like Jesus. I look at what is happening now in America and read bible verses that say to the exact opposite. It’s sad really, but we need people like us to stand up for the less fortunate.

  • Nadia

    That is such a touching letter and it’s amazing you were able to save it and share it now <3 Such a beautifully written post & a reminder to be more compassionate, helpful and caring. The best thing we can do is not to look at what others are doing/how much they are donating/how good they are to people simply because a lot of work is going on behind the scenes. There are thousands and thousands of those who help less fortunate financially, with shelter, food, moral support and they never talk about it. I feel like that has always been an example for myself. Also, helping those who can't pay you back in any way is another incredible thing <3
    xox Nadia
    http://www.mielandmint.com

    • Thank you, Nadia. Yes, I agree with not looking at what others are doing in terms of donating/volunteering/doing good. I never compare myself like that to others. I simply looked at my own life and realized there needs to be changes. I believe there are other people in this world who feel the exact same way.

      • Nadia

        That’s so great, Jessica! I am very happy for you & think this post was such an important piece to share <3 Well done, girl! x

  • Sarah Jacot

    Wow Jessica,

    This is exactly what I needed to read. You are so inspiring!

  • How wonderful that you still have that assignment from when you were younger! This is going to inspire me to get organized about saving some of my kids’ own work, so they, too, can be inspired by their younger selves in the future!

    • YES, I’m going to that for my daughter as well. Thanks for reading and commenting, Sarah.

  • brittany

    I absolutely loved reading this!

  • sally

    That’s amazing that you still have that from when you were 8! And what a big heart you have! I think it’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day and what’s in front of us that we forget the bigger picture. We get so consumed by material wealthy and it’s hard not to when it’s constantly thrown in our faces that we need the latest and greatest product. Hopefully, we all can learn to live simply and to have a bigger heart for our neighbor and lead by example. Thanks for sharing this. <3

    • Yes, that’s so true Sally. The thing is, I don’t even feed into consumerism by purchasing a lot of products or clothes. The hardest part for me is simply letting go of the income to give to those in need. I’m working on it, though. Thanks for reading and commenting.

  • Angela Chang

    Children can be so profound. They truly care about what matters — what a great reminder to think and love like a child!

    • Thank you for reading and commenting, Angela. πŸ˜€

  • I love that you still have that note! What a great reminder for everyone! Children truly have such pure hearts and such innocence.

    • Yes, I think we need to channel that innocence more and more in order to help those in need.

  • Andrea Franklin

    Your 8 year old self is a mighty inspiring little lady. And she’s still you, she’s just had life happen. Thank you for sharing this, for opening your own heart to receive the words you wrote at that tender age, and for opening it up to reach others as well!

    • That is true, Andrea. Thank you for reading and commenting. πŸ™‚

  • Stephanie Lowry

    I absolutely loved reading this. How beautiful! So awesome that you still have that note!

  • Beautiful. Thanks for sharing and for giving us all a great reminder. Let’s all be 8 again!

  • Thanks for sharing that letter to your future self, and for charging us all to be teachers of empathy. Now that your young self has lit a fire in you, where are you planning to help first?

    • Thank you for reading! I’m planning on finding a place to volunteer on a regular basis-somewhere with babies or children in need.

  • Jennifer Steinmetz

    This is beautiful. What a great reminder that real joy is in giving and sharing!

  • Rachel Loza

    I absolutely love this. Financially, I’m totally guilty, too. But as someone who is now in their 30s, I feel like I’ve started to move back towards being my 8 year old self! πŸ™‚ I care a lot less of what people think. πŸ˜‰

    • Thank you for reading, Rachel! I’m glad personally you are moving back to your 8-year-old self. I’ve never cared that much of what others thought of me, so have I always been 8? πŸ˜‰

  • Lesley Sullivan

    This really put things into prospective. I want my children to grow up and me empathetic little souls, but its starts now! Thank you for sharing

    • It sure does. I’m trying my best to show her every day now. Thanks for reading, Lesley!

  • This is so true. As an adult we def. can lose track of the important things in life.

    • It’s concerning how easy it is, too. Thanks for reading, Danielle.

  • Shannon Marie

    I love this so much!

  • Kathryn Minas

    This is such a wonderful and important post! Thanks for sharing. It would be amazing if we all had our little ones capture their wishes for the world in writing and then shared it with them when they are older. Our thinking changes so much over the years.

    • Yes, our thinking does change a lot over the years. I’m currently journaling my child’s life from day one, and I hope she appreciates reading about her young life when she’s old enough. πŸ™‚ Thanks for reading!

  • Lauren

    This is wonderful; what a gift to find that old assignment. I love your point about setting an example for your daughter.

    • Thank you for reading. I was pleasantly surprised to see the blast from the past. πŸ™‚

  • Casey Fossett Powers

    This is such a great reminder! What do we want to passing on to our children? Pieces of paper that mean nothing from the heart? I’m going to take note of this and try to change some behaviors!

    • Yes, I think it’s important for us to think of what we want to pass on to our children. What do we want them to learn from us? Also, what have we learned from our parents? Thank you for reading!

  • Lindsey McClure

    I need to give more (so much more) to others…whether it be my time, my money, or my resources. Thank you for sharing your heart.

  • Tabitha Shakespeare

    This is something that has definitely been on my heart lately. Thank you for sharing!