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Why Cleaning Out My Closet Has Made Me a Better Dresser

Why Cleaning Out My Closet Has Made Me a Better Dresser www.herviewfromhome.com
Written by Sarah Jean

A funny thing has been happening lately; people have been complimenting me on my outfits.  Me: the one who wears yoga pants and pretends they are “professional attire.” Who always grabs the ugly, frumpy dress because it’s easy and won’t require dry cleaning when I inevitably spill pasta sauce on it.  And me: the one who has been known to wear sneakers with dresses because I walk to work.

The first time it happened I looked behind me because surely they weren’t talking to me.  But then I looked down and had noticed I had put on a cute outfit that day. After a silent pat on the back I chalked it up as a lucky break. Eventually I had to put on a decent outfit, right? And then it happened again – in a different group of people – so this was no fluke.

That’s when I remembered my recent closet purge. How could I forget? In a flurry I had taken everything I didn’t love, or couldn’t find things to match and triumphantly put them in the “donate” bag. At the time it felt good, I just had no idea it would make be a better dresser.

Backing up a bit, I had recently finished a book called The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing.  Don’t worry, this isn’t a book review.  But her book did help me de-clutter my apartment (and surprisingly my life) with her practical and unique tips. In a mad flurry I went through everything I owned either donating or throwing away most of my stuff while my husband looked on, clutching his belongings tighter. And while Marie does talk about cleaning out your closet, she always connected it to bringing me more joy (which it did) and not that it would make me a better dresser.

In fact, my closet was the last part of my apartment I tackled with her tips. First, I felt like I didn’t have that many clothes to begin with; even before reading her book I was pretty minimalistic. Second, I was only supposed to keep everything I loved, but I didn’t love a lot of things in my closet, and therefore feared I would have nothing to wear.

I almost felt like I didn’t deserve an entire wardrobe I loved. It’s expensive, and most days no one sees me except my husband, my co-workers and maybe the woman who works at the Post Office. Why waste a good outfit then? I needed ones that I could wash and wear and just not care.

That’s not to say I didn’t have cute clothes. It’s funny, the more I got rid of the old and ugly brown dresses, the more cute sweaters from JCrew and pretty little skirts from Loft I found hidden behind them. Clothes I bought knowing they were adorable but never felt like I earned the right to wear them. But somehow buying them and letting them sit in my closet – unused – made me feel better. That is until I read the Magic of Tidying Up book and had an epiphany.

One day I grabbed a brown dress that I probably wore once a week, but truly hated, and thought, “Why am I keeping this?”  I decided I’d rather have fewer items, but love every piece in my closet, then extras I don’t like or even need.

So I purged. Gone went sweaters covered in fuzz that I kept because they were warm. Gone was that yellow sweater that washed me out but I kept wearing because it never wrinkled. Gone even was the silk nautical shirt I always got compliments on, but never knew what to wear with it, so always felt awkward when I did.

What I was left with were items that I individually loved, and surprisingly went well together. Why did I never think to put my black leggings with that oversized fall sweater? They were so perfect; it was so easy.

I also discovered a few other unintended effects of purging my closet.

First, it goes without saying that if you only keep everything you love, you will love every item in your closet.

Second, putting together outfits is so much simpler now. As I purged I only kept items that easily matched other items (think neutrals) and therefore, more of my tops automatically go with more of my bottoms.

Third, it saves me money! Yes, I actually buy fewer clothes. Now before I hand over my card I ask myself whether it will go with a majority of the rest of the items in my closet. If not, I no longer see it being worth the money, knowing I will probably love it, but never wear it.

Fourth, I appreciate what I have more. It’s funny, but when you have fewer things, you appreciate them more. Almost like being flooded with material items forces you to lose appreciation for them. These minimalists may be onto something.

And lastly, it has boosted my confidence. A good outfit will do that. Now when someone says, “I love your outfit!” I just smile and say, “Thank you. Me too.”

About the author

Sarah Jean

Sarah is a Buffalo transplant living in Washington, D.C. with her husband Josh and cat Squeakers. By day she work as a Communications Director for a Member of Congress; by night she dreams of being Martha Stewart. She also loves pigs, peonies, politics and peanut butter. Follow her at http://prettysimpleideas.com/

  • Brandy Burke

    My closet is ridiculous and your post inspired me to at least consider the possibility of cleaning it out once and for all – there are things in there that I brought with me from the 90’s.

  • Mostly Simple Life

    I’ve cleaned out my closet recently too. It’s so much easier to get dressed when you only keep what fits and what you like!

  • http://theofficialceomom.com Kristie

    I now need to clean out my closet! I think I have clothes from high school still. #shame And I’m a yoga pants mom all the way. Definitely time for a change.

  • Christine

    I need to clean out my closet. The last time I did this was two years ago. Its time and especially after reading this post, I feel motivated! Thanks!

  • http://nuttyhiker.com [email protected] of a NuttyHiker

    I am in the process of purging my closet! Most of the stuff I have, doesn’t fit right, or is old. I’d rather get rid of most of it and just have the clothes that fit and look great on me left!

  • Emily Bendler

    This makes so much sense!! I have been avoiding going through my closet cause I had a baby and I didn’t know where my body shape was going to end up. Things I loved didn’t fit and things I didn’t love actually looked better. Now that I’m about 6 months postpartum, it think i’m ready for a purge!

  • http://www.emwritesblog.com Emily @ Em Writes

    This is a great perspective! I really need to do a complete closet overhaul. I love the idea of LOVING every single piece in my closet.

  • http://pinesandsea.blogspot.com/ Brittany

    I’ve been wanting to purge my closet for awhile because I normally feel like I dress really sloppy or things just don’t look as good on me or fit like they used to after having my first. This was so encouraging to just make the closet purge happen!

    Brittany
    http://www.hdevereux.blogspot.com

  • Neely

    I read that book too! Loved this. So helpful for cleaning out and organizing

  • http://www.heavenonearthblog.com.au Sam @ Heaven On Earth

    I love that book too! I have found the daily connoisseur (https://dailyconnoisseur.blogspot.com.au) to be super helpful too – I’m trying to embrace a 10 item wardrobe at the moment. It makes it way easier and so much more fun to get dressed every day!

  • Nicole Parise

    I love going through my closet. If I’m not wearing it, why keep it? It also sets you up for success when you’re shopping, because you can ask yourself how likely you will pick it among your other items.
    xx nicole
    http://www.nicoleparise.com

  • Crystal Marie

    I’ve heard of this book before and have been wanting to read it. So many people say it has helped them. I definitely need to go through my closet.

  • http://beyondbasicblog.com Meghan

    I have so much stuff in my closet..some are sitting bags from when I moved!! I dont know what is in them but I do know I havent cared much about it. I should really let go of a lot of things!

  • Laura

    I commend you for purging you closet. I really need to do a good, honest purge on my closet and dresser drawers but I’m afraid to, for the exact same reason you were. I’m afraid I really won’t have any clothes left to wear. However, after reading this it makes me feel like I should just do it. I just purge and see what happens. It could be great. Thank you for sharing this. I am going to have to check that book out. It sounds life changing. 🙂

  • Candy Kage

    You were able to clean your closet, find great pieces you had forgotten about and develop a new wardrobe. Win in my books.

  • http://www.kindlyunspoken.com Cara Owens-Kindly Unspoken

    Good for you! I definitely need to do a purge now that we’re entering the colder season. Lately if I try something on and don’t love it, I don’t put it back in the closet because there’s no need for it to take up valuable space.

  • http://www.theviewfromhere.is Clarissa

    This is such a good perspective on convincing yourself to clean out your closet! I may need to do that come Spring!

    -Clarissa @ The View From Here

  • Tiffany Austin

    This is such a good idea. I do this at least twice a year.

  • Heather Gullett Denniston

    My girlfriend was telling me about that book. She said it is awesome. Thanks for the share.

  • Ashley

    I recently did this and it made a huge difference! That book had so many great tips!

    xo Ashley

  • http://xoxobella.com Bella B @ xoxoBella

    Good for you lovely!!! its such a good idea.

  • Jenny @The Sensible Shopaholic

    Very cool. I badly need to clean out my closet. I constantly forget I own stuff!

    Jenny
    thesensibleshopaholic.com

  • http://sandsunandmessybuns.com/ sandsunandmessybuns

    I absolutely love the konmari method! I practice it and it works in all areas of life…not just for clothes.
    xoxo, erin | sandsunandmessybuns.com

  • Michelle Leslie

    You’re so right Sarah. Hubby and I share a cupboard and for a long time he hardly had anywhere to put his cloths with all my old stuff, until I did a major purge and it felt so good. Now we both have more than enough space and I have a closet filled with the cloths that I love wearing and make me feel good.

  • Leanna Forsythe

    I purge my closet abut twice a year, but I usually just throw out anything stained or worn out. Keeping your wardrobe down to items you love makes alot of sense. I need to remember it for next time

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