Kids Motherhood

Why I Don’t Make Easter Baskets for My Children

Why I Don’t Make Easter Baskets for My Children www.herviewfromhome.com
Written by Charissa Thonus
 
Do you feel the pressure to do more and more as a parent?
 
A few years ago I was chatting with another mom right around Easter. She was feeling pretty stressed about making Easter baskets for her children and seemed downright discouraged by the whole task. I heard her frustration and shared that I didn’t even do Easter baskets for my children. She seemed surprised that basket-making wasn’t on my to-do list. Honestly, what I think I saw in her was the realization that perhaps as parents we have the freedom to not do what everyone else around us is doing.
 
I chose not to do Easter baskets then. I still choose not to do Easter baskets even when it seems like everyone around me is making that choice, including some of my favorite people in the online world. I love mommy blogs and YouTube channels, and right around this time of the year it seems like everyone is sharing what they are buying for their children’s baskets. The baskets are beautiful and fun, and I am sure children love to find them Easter morning.
 
Easter baskets are a sweet tradition for many families, but I feel confident in my choice to not make or buy baskets for my children. I make this choice because…
 
I want expressions of my love for them to be less gift-centered. There is a strong tendency for parents to give gifts to their children to show love. Gifts are certainly a special way to express how much you care for your children, but there are other ways that don’t involve “more stuff.” My children received gifts at Christmas (just a few months ago). They also came home with goodies at Valentine’s Day. I’m okay with not giving them something at Easter. They know I love them even if they don’t have a large basket waiting for them Easter morning.
 
My children don’t need a basket full of candy and small toys. It seems that every place we visit and each event we attend our children receive something. Go to the bank and your children can get a lollipop. Visit the doctor or dentist, and they receive a small toy for being brave. Buy a meal at a restaurant, and they get a little trinket. Attend a birthday party and at the end comes a bag of goodies. Do you see what I mean? Kids are constantly getting stuff. I try to avoid more stuff whenever I can. An Easter basket is really just a basket of “more,” so I am okay with avoiding that, too.
 
I want my children to focus on the story of Easter. In our Christian family, Easter, the day Jesus rose from the dead, is a very important day. It’s easy to take the focus off this event and quickly put it on a bunny and a colorful basket of goodies. For me, I want to avoid this distraction (much like I want to avoid Santa at Christmas). I want my children to be excited about this important and life-changing day instead of being excited about more candy and other treats.
 
I don’t want to run around like a crazy woman. The mom I mentioned at the start of this post was stressed. She was stressed because she still had more to do in order to complete the basket. She was stressed because she was on the hunt for the perfect item to put a smile on her child’s face. She was stressed because she had been running around like crazy and was going to have to do more of that to complete the basket. I don’t like running around like crazy, but it seems to be the trend at every holiday.
 
I don’t do Easter baskets. I don’t do the tooth fairy. We only buy our kids a few gifts at Christmas. They don’t have stockings. Many families do this, but we don’t.
 
I share all of this to let you know there is another way.
 
If you love making big, elaborate Easter baskets, keeping making them. If you find joy in buying your children lots of gifts at Christmas, then keep doing that. If you love big birthday parties please enjoy that which you love to do.
 
Please hear these words, though: If you don’t feel like that’s what you want to do or perhaps you have found other ways to show love and celebrate ordinary days or important holidays, then don’t be afraid to be a little different.
 
Don’t be afraid to be the mom who doesn’t make Easter baskets.
 

About the author

Charissa Thonus

Charissa Thonus is a wife, mother of 3, and a former 5th grade teacher. Last year she decided to do something she had thought about doing for several years, she started a blog. Charissa writes to encourage moms to live a full life without all the busy. You can follow her on her blog

  • Danielle Christine

    I love this! Our world is way too fast-paced and filled with “more more more.” I like the idea of slowing things down and being okay with “less.” Which I think is really more, in the long run!

  • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

    Thanks so much for commenting, Danielle! You are so right, less really is more!!

  • Denise Rodriquez

    Thanks for sharing this. I keep my life very simple with 5 littles in the house, I also don’t make my Easter baskets. My mother in law does the egg hunt every year. I also don’t do tooth fairy, and so far we have not done the Christmas tree! Encouraging to know I’m not the only one that doesn’t go all out for every holiday.

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      You’re not alone, Denise!! Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts!

  • I love this! “If you love making big, elaborate Easter baskets, keeping making them. If you find joy in buying your children lots of gifts at Christmas, then keep doing that. If you love big birthday parties please enjoy that which you love to do.”

    Growing up, my mom never did Easter baskets, Santa, The Tooth Fairy, or anything else like that. I certainly didn’t live a deprived childhood or think that I was unloved. I only have one child and right now, I’m doing the Easter baskets but only because I enjoy it. It’s like I’m getting to experience this stuff for the first time, through her eyes, because I didn’t have it as a kid.

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      Thanks for reading the article and sharing your thoughts, Claire!! Happy Easter!

  • This is such a great post, and I love how you don’t judge either side of the coin. Motherhood is all about doing what we think is best for our family:) Thank you for sharing!

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      Thank you for your kind words, Joanna! Each family is unique…I just wanted to share what we do! Thanks for reading. 🙂

  • Vanessa

    Yup, yup, yup! Thank you for sharing this! I actually thought about that this morning. Everywhere I go I see easter baskets and what others are giving their kids. And here I am with two littles and haven’t even put anything together and started to think maybe I should but really?! So your words definitely spoke to my heart that I am making the right decision not to right now for the exact same reasons! 🙂

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      Vanessa, I’m so glad you found my article at just the right time! Happy Easter to you and your family!!

  • Naomi Lucero

    Amen. I never got Easter baskets as a child unless a neighbor hooked us up. I didn’t even know gift giving for Easter was “a thing” till I was 22.
    My mother in law is all about them, I’m fine with it, but i won’t be buying them. No guilt.

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      No guilt is a good thing, Naomi!

  • Naomi Lucero

    Also never did Santa, tooth fairy, or elf on a shelf

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      🙂

  • I really enjoyed reading your opinion about this. I agree that I want my love to be less gift centered, but I guess it’s just been a tradition in my family. I enjoy making baskets.

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      Keep up the tradition if you love it!!

  • i totally understand where you are coming from. sometimes i feel like my family only knows how to *express* their love is with gifts, but i don’t think they realize how much their actions say. i always know, even if they don’t get me a chocolate cream egg on a certain holiday. 🙂

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      🙂

  • Patricia

    I can really appreciate this. I do very basic baskets (well this year 98 cent buckets) with a variety of dollar store items and something that points back to the true meaning of Easter. Gifts or not, I definitely don’t want the fanfare to outshine Jesus during this time!!

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      I like that your baskets contain something that points back to the true meaning of Easter! Thanks for sharing what you do, @disqus_vQ8TBhG96M:disqus!

  • Vickie Smith

    my grandmother did the baskets, my mom just a few colored eggs….this is the first year in maybe 5 I’ve had the energy to make the homemade fondant filled eggs I used to make all the time. With only 4 of 10 at home things have changed…if it’s not bringing joy don’t do it!

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      Thanks for sharing your experiences, Vickie!

  • Thank you for this post! I just stumbled upon this after Googling around and wondering if I was the only mother on earth who doesn’t do Easter baskets. I agree with everything you’ve said here and am so reassured now that I’m not alone!

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      Yay! I’m so glad you found my article and that it encouraged you, @ashleydickson:disqus!!

  • I agree with you and I don’t do Easter baskets either. I have five between the ages of 5-18 and they’re all okay without them. hehe

    • Charissa | thenotsobusymom

      @writerlisamason:disqus, I also find that my kids are more than fine without Easter baskets 🙂
      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.