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Yes, My Son Is Still Breastfeeding At Age 1 And I’m Proud Of This Accomplishment

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Written by Alexie Flook

Apparently, I’m a selfish mom.

That’s what I was told this week, and not because I do things for myself, but because I do things for my son.

In my opinion, being a mom is a self LESS task. It means putting the things that matter the most to you on the side and diverting your attention to the ungrateful temper tantrum waiting to happen that you conceived and then loving them unconditionally because to you, they are so much more than a snot nosed brat. Nothing about that sounds selfish to me.

Unfortunately, there are far too many silly, let’s say silly, people in this world who lose sight of the important parts of motherhood and say things that actually make no sense at all.

My son loves food. I mean he really does. Sometimes he eats so much that I wonder if he even has an off switch in his little tummy. That being said, he still really enjoys nursing. Like really enjoys it. He never nurses for long, but sometimes during his day he’ll take a moment away from playing, “destroy-the-entire-house” to come sit on my lap and nurse. I love these moments. I love that he wants to feel connected to me. I love that he’s still receiving the best nutrition I can offer him. I love that we can still share this and that even though he’s growing up, he still needs his mom.

Some may say that all of those reasons are about me, and thus I am selfish. I guess you could imply that because I don’t want my baby to grow up that I am using breastfeeding as a way to keep him my baby. I mean you may even think that I am ultimately making it harder for everyone by allowing him to breastfeed.

If breastfeeding my son past the age of one makes me selfish, then I am proud to be a selfish mother.

Personally, I find it selfish to deny my son something that makes him so comfortable. When he is hurt, he nurses; when he is sick; he nurses, when he is going through major change; he nurses. Nursing provides him with a comfort that would be impossible to find anywhere else because it is natural.

Someone please explain to me how it is selfish to continue to nourish and nurture my son?

FACT: It has been estimated that the natural weaning age for humans is between two and seven and in fact, children weaned under the age of two are at an increased risk of illness if weaned.

Unfortunately, we live in a society that does not support moms who choose extended breast feeding for their families, so women are called selfish for doing what nature actually intended for them to do, and are encouraged to feed their babies cows milk instead of human milk. Something about that just screams ironic. I’m actually laughing on this end of the computer.

My breast milk is designed for my child. It is designed to help my baby grow and develop. It has all the nutrients he needs on top of the mass amounts of food he consumes every day. He loves broccoli, he loves oranges, he loves sugar snap peas, and he loves nursing.

Forgive me if my breastfeeding my son offends you. Forgive me if you think that my decisions are selfish. We all have to do what is best for our babies and that’s exactly what I am doing. I may be a selfish mom, but I’m selfish for the most selfless reasons.

Mic drop.

About the author

Alexie Flook

Alexie is a world traveler turned stay at home mom to a beautiful one year old son and crazy boxer dog. When she’s not chasing them around the house, you can usually find her blogging at http://www.alwaysalexie.com/ or relaxing with a (usually cold) cup of tea. Her favorite things are craft beer, cold brew coffee, baby wearing and beaches!

16 Comments

  • You don’t need to apologize or ask for forgiveness. You are doing a wonderful job for you and your child. Breastfeeding is hard work! I know because I’ve done it for 26 months before calling it quits (check out my Breast is Best Until Mama is Done it was on HVFH a few weeks ago)… you are a rockstar. Nothing less!! Keep on keeping on Mama!!

  • Amen girl! Couldn’t agree more, seriously I can’t imagine any reason this is selfish. If he would be 10, ok probably different story, but 1?? Here in Spain it’s almost the other way around, it’s considered selfish is you don’t continue that long. Breastfeeding for 2 to 3 years is completely normal. I had to stop around 8months because I just couldn’t keep doing it while working full time and I was nervous the first time after that to go to lucas’ monthly checkup because I thought the nurse might call me selfish…

  • WONDERFUL post!!! I guess I’m really selfish then, haha, because I’m still breastfeeding my son, six months after his first birthday. In fact, he didn’t even really start eating food until after he turned one-he just wasn’t interested. I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been faced with judgment and hate for caring for and loving your son though-how sad. People definitely act like I’m weird for still breastfeeding a toddler, but whatever, haha. You can’t please the world <3 Way to go, mama, you're a rockstar!

  • Agreed! I still breastfeed my 15 month old and don’t plan to stop until she is ready to wean. Our days are pretty much the same. She plays and then takes a little “break” to hop on my lap and nurse for a minute. It’s our moment to reconnect with each other and I love it.

  • Nurse on, mama, nurse on! I made it 13 months and would have gone longer but I got too darn skinny πŸ™ You are being the best mama for your baby!

  • Count it a blessing. While others may judge (unrightly so), count it one incredible blessing. My first made it to 5 months, until I became very ill and hospitalized, and could no longer nurse. My second, thankfully, made it to over a year. My third had a mind and agenda of his own, and gave up nursing at 3 months. I was a bit devastated. One thing I have learned from my three babies is that nursing is such a personal and unique situation with every child. No one is to be judged. Circumstances change, and babies differ. What matters is that they are healthy and happy. All the best to you and your little man! I have three little guys of my own, and those appetites only grow more voracious πŸ˜‰

  • I’m with you! I nursed my first 3 until around 2 years old. My 4th nursed until almost 3! πŸ˜‰ I’m a very, very selfish mama!

  • Congrats mama for feeding your babe for 12 months so far. I only made it to 9 months, only because I returned to full time work. If I didn’t go back to work I would have breast fed him until he was 2!

  • Oh my goodness. People are silly. Congrats on making it a year and I am so in awe that you have the attitude you have! My son is one and still breastfeeds. Like your son, he LOVES food, but he also LOVES nursing! I don’t know many people who have nursed past one year, so sometimes I feel like I’m in the minority. Glad to know I’m not alone!! xx

  • Congratulations on sticking to your guns, mama! We know what’s best for our littles better than anyone πŸ™‚

  • I’m so glad you followed your instincts. Many moms feel the pressure to wean by a certain age. I’m not so sure what about 12 months makes them seem so grown up. They’re still peeing and pooping in their pants *rolls eyes* You breastfeed Hudson for as long as you think is best.

  • Congrats for making it to this milestone. Don’t let those who are ignorant deprive your son the benefits of your milk. I breastfed my first just past 2yrs, and her colds were few and minor – we got a rude awakening her first cold after weaning.

    Don’t wean until you and/or your son are ready.