Becoming comfortable with who you are takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight and it certainly doesn’t come without its setbacks. You will still have days where you question everything that you are doing. But the most important thing you need to understand, is that your worth should not and is not determined by anyone other than yourself. 

Self-discovery comes with time and experiences. No matter your age, you will still learn something new about yourself often. Explore your gifts. Follow the path your heart leads you to. Know who you are and what it is that sets you apart from everyone else. And believe that there is more to life than settling.
 
If you don’t like the way your life is turning out, change it. Even if it can’t be an instantaneous change, make small changes until you can take the leap. If you have a dream, go for it. Ignore the doubts from other people. They do not know what you are capable of. Only you truly know the potential of your gifts. If at some point the dream changes, let it go and move on.
 
You will deal with hardships. Unfortunate circumstances are a part of life and are usually out of your control. Don’t allow these situations to drag you into darkness. And if they do, let it be a brief visit. As you grow and enter new phases of life you’ll learn that reflection can guide you to find the light in the dark and grow from these experiences. Use what you learn from these to propel yourself forward. 
 
Have faith in yourself and trust your instinct. Every day won’t be wonderful. Every day won’t be fun. But every day you have the choice to make it the best that you can.
 
You will encounter people who get off on other’s misery. People like that have their own demons that they chose not to face. Don’t let them win. Show them that you are better than that. Show them that life is better than that. Be who you are even if they’re trying to mold you into who they want you to be. Don’t allow them to diminish your worth. 
 
If someone tells you any differently, they don’t belong in your life. People who suck the happiness and life out of you don’t deserve the time of day. Unfortunately sometimes, people don’t even realize they are doing that. They make mindless comments without thinking about the negative ramifications that come with those comments. 
 
Be bigger than those comments. 
 
Don’t just listen to listen, listen to understand. You don’t have to agree with every person who you talk to, but every one is entitled to their own opinion. Even if you feel that it’s wrong, respect that it’s their own and their right to have that opinion.
 
People will try to break you down. They will try to walk all over you. 
 
Know your worth.
 
Know you’re better than that.
 
Then find your tribe. Find those who you vibe with. Find people who bring you joy and support you for being you. These people do exist and sometimes come into your life so unexpectedly. Value them. Bring them joy and support them. Build a balanced relationship that brings light to both of your lives. 
 
Every day try to be the best version of yourself and if you fail, get up the next morning and start fresh. If you need help, lean on those who you trust and then express gratitude for their faith in you and revitalizing your faith in yourself. 
 
Be who you are and always remind yourself of these four things:
 
You are important.
 
You are intelligent.
 
You are irreplaceable. 
 
And you are loved beyond measure. 
 
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Hi, I'm Stephanie. I'm an Interior designer, serious coffee lover, and a huge Walking Dead fan. My husband and I are raising our 2 children in my hometown located in Upstate New York. My mission is to inspire women to follow their passion for design and to empower them to be their authentic self. You can find me and follow the journey on Instagram and Pinterest.

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