If you do nothing else this year, find your people.

I don’t mean your “I am good. How have you been?” people.

I mean your “I don’t have to ask because I just know something is wrong” kind of people.

Not the kind of people who, once they see you in the trenches, stand up on the sidelines and ask if you need help.

Nope. You want the kind of people who will crawl down in there with you. Through the yuck and through the muck. The ones who don’t mind getting dirty, if it means just being by your side.

Those are the kind of people I want you to find.

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The ones who, when everything else goes to crap, and the world is getting loud around you, well, you want the ones who will help extinguish the fires.

Because there are some who will throw fuel. 

You want the ones who will love you and stand by you, on the days when you are yourself and on the days when you are not.

Because there are some who will leave.

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You want the ones who will keep showing up, even when you don’t. The ones who don’t take the unopened text messages personally. Nor do they care if you haven’t made it to the last 18 invites.

Because there are some who will make your escape from life about them.

The reality is, life has its ups and it has its downs.

You want to find the people who don’t make your friendship a choice.

Because they love you anyway. No matter what.

So promise me you won’t stop until you find your people. The people who will cause you to look up, smile, and say, “You knew I needed them, didn’t you?”

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It will be the greatest gift you’ll give yourself this year.

Trust me.

This post originally appeared on Love Always, Heather

 

Heather Delaney

Heather saw her husband-to-be at the age of 13, immediately said she would marry him, and then (10 years later) she did. Together they are now raising three children (and a dog) by the ocean. Heather is an advocate for motherhood, marriage, and sisterhood, and is crazy passionate about wellness, positive living, and keeping the memory of her parents alive with words. You can follow along with her adventures either on Facebook, or on Instagram