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We’ve been here before, I’ve wiped those tear-streaked cheeks multiple times throughout your childhood years and was able to give you the love and comfort you needed to make it all better. 

But this time was different. This time there was no amount of reassurance I could offer that would make it hurt less.

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The despair in your eyes cuts straight to my heart and my heart breaks for you because I understand what you’re going through although I’ll never be able to convince you of that.  

I want to make it all better and wash away all of those memories so you can move on without discomfort. 

I want to hold you and remind you you are worthy of being loved and God has bigger and better plans in store for you. 

I want to tell you you deserve someone who is going to love you and value you and want nothing more than to see you smiling and happy . . . and in time, that person will show up in your life.  

And as much as I want you to know those things and to feel those things, I also know this heartache takes time to heal.

And through the healing, you will discover what it is you want in a relationship. I know you will figure out your own boundaries and self-worth.  

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I know this is a difficult time for you but a great life lesson you will look back on someday and be thankful for. But today, as you cry yourself to sleep again, I just want you to know how very much you are loved. 

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