The baby is crying and nothing helps. The toddler is kicking and screaming on the floor. The older kids are fighting. The teenager is talking back. That’s how a lot of mamas’ days seem to go, right? Your kids are on their best behavior in front of the rest of the world (most of the time), but with you it seems like everything is falling apart. You ask yourself, “Why don’t they listen to me? Why are they always upset? What am I doing wrong?!”

Mama, you’re doing everything just right.

You are their safe space. 

When your baby starts to cry, they know as long as Mama is there, she will come. No matter what time, how tired you are, how long they’ve cried, or if they seem to be crying for no reason at all.

You are their safe space. 

When your toddler NEEDS his green cup but daddy gave him the blue, he knows Mama will fix it. Mama will do her best to understand his impulsiveness, fix his ouchies, find the perfect snack, and do the best job at playing dinosaurs.

You are their safe space. 

Your school-aged children know Mama will be there through the tough homework, first real fights with friends, and to help them understand a world that is changing so quickly around them as they grow. When they’re confused, upset, or happy, they can bring it all to Mama.

You are their safe space. 

When your teenagers are going through their first real heartbreak, trying to establish some sense of real independence, and perplexed even by their own thoughts they know Mama will always be there with open arms.

You are their safe space. 

One day when those babies grow into adults with babies of their own, they will call their mama looking for advice. You have always been and still are their safe space. 

Our little ones know no matter what they do, how far they go, or how much they hurt, they can go to their mama for the unconditional love they need to keep going.

I am so thankful I get to be their safe space.

Shelbie Tanner

I’m a full time bookkeeper, but my favorite “job” is being Mama to my sons. I have a love for all things personalized, early morning cuddles, and way too many sweets. Writing is my favorite way to talk about how much I love motherhood and my hope is that the things I write will resonate with other moms.