I’m expecting a baby. But I’m not pregnant. I don’t suffer from morning sickness. I won’t ever feel my baby kick me from inside. I will never give birth to a baby. I wasn’t there for the first breaths my other kids took, I missed their first tears, and I wasn’t the first to hold them or the first to love them. The same will probably be true for this baby. And that’s okay.

I have so many friends who are expecting, except unlike me, they have the cute pregnant belly. And by being pregnant you have a general idea of when your baby will come. I have NO idea. It could be significantly less than 9 months (that would be nice!) or it could be years (ugh). Truth be told, it might never happen. When you’re pregnant, you have the choice to find out gender. If I was pregnant, I would find out for sure. I’m a planner and not big on surprises. My sis-in-law is having a baby this month and she doesn’t know what she’s having. (I think boy.) But it was her choice to have a big, happy surprise at the end. When you’re pregnant, you get to make that choice.

While there are definitely some differences between being pregnant and waiting for a baby via adoption, there’s a lot in common too. No matter how we’re expecting, we’re excited. We have hopes and dreams for those babies we’re all waiting for. We love those babies before we even meet them. We wonder what they will look like, what their personalities will be like and we all pray for good sleepers.

Even though I don’t have a pregnant belly and I don’t know when (or if) my baby is coming, you can still treat me like any other expecting mom. We’re excited, happy and we want to talk about it! Just don’t touch my belly… 😉

Alissa Kay

Alissa was born and raised in the Midwest and currently calls Wisconsin home. She's happily married to her college sweetheart and she's living out her dreams of being a stay-at-home mom. Although, let's be real, she's hardly ever home. She's the mom to 3 kids who all came to her via adoption. A boy (8) and 2 girls (6 and almost 4!). The kids keep her plenty busy, but when she has free time she enjoys a night out with friends or curling up with a good book.