To the Mom of the Son with Peanut Allergies

Dear Mom of the Son with Peanut Allergies (and other food intolerances),

First, I’m sorry. I’m sorry there is one added thing for you to worry about in your child’s life. Because there is already so much to worry about. I know. I’m a mom, too. And although I don’t have to worry about my sons eating something containing a peanut product (or any other food product, for that matter – we got lucky), I worry about them… a lot. So, here are few things I want you to know, dear momma: 

1. I’m not insensitive, I promise. 
   I don’t know if it’s my sinful, selfish nature, or the fact that my head is spinning with all the things I worry about for my children, but I sometimes remember last minute and I sometimes forget how many things contain peanut products. But I do care. I care greatly and think about your child when packing treats for the class and when I pack my son’s bag for nursery at church.
2. I was glad to learn how to use the epipen.
   It was happy to learn how to use the epipen. I’m a planner, I like to be prepared, and I want your baby to be safe, just like I want mine to be safe. Since learning how to use that clever little device helps to keep your child safe, I am very happy to do so. 
3. You’re a good mom.
   I see you making accommodations for your child, double checking ingredients, reminding others he can’t have something, eliminating foods from your home to be extra careful and making those extra medical precautions. While I don’t envy you, I do admire you. I know I would do the same if I were in your shoes, because we love our children, but it would be hard, and you do it with such grace. 
4. You’re not alone.
   No, my children do not have food allergies. We do not have that in common. But we’re both mothers, every child is different, and there are added concerns I have in raising my children, as well. So, although I may not understand exactly what you’re going through, I understand the struggles of being a mother. So, you can talk to me about yours. I’m happy to listen, to be a friend and to share in this journey together. Being a mother is very difficult, and oh, so rewarding. We all have that in common.

Love,
The Mom of the Child without Peanut Allergies