It seems that your decision to send a slice of chocolate cake  in your preschool daughter’s lunch is making headlines. More precisely, it was the note the school sent home instructing you to make healthier choices in your little one’s lunch which has all sides mixed up.

I know how hard it is to get your children to make healthy food choices. Kids can be the pickiest eaters. When my kids were growing up we did the game, “just ten more bites and then dessert.” This seemed to work well, got them to eat their veggies with a little more enthusiasm or motivated them to try new things. With you having eight healthy children, I’m sure you have come up with very clever ways to encourage your little ones as well.

This is why I am asking is it just me or does it seem that more and more policies are being created to extend the arm of governing institutions outside their walls and into our homes? These one size fits all policies and assumptions seem to imply that the school loves and knows what is best for our children more than you or I do as parents.

I am assuming your other choices for your little girl’s lunch that day must have been satisfactory, seeing as you only have one horrible awfully offensive treat listed on the conveyance from the school.

The thing is, there is so much more to a child’s health than just physical. What about their emotional health? Small treats and surprises in a child’s lunchbox has long been a practice of loving caring parents all over the world. They offer a little something extra to let those most dear to us know that they are thought of and loved, something to feed their soul, not just meet their dietary requirements.

I want to thank you for thinking of your daughter when you packed her lunch that day. Thank you for making sure she is happy, healthy and encouraged. I am 100% behind you.

And to the preschool who prefers to “school” the parents rather than its students what is the harm of a little sweet spongey encouragement? I say let them eat cake!


A fellow Cake-packing Mom

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Donna Mott

Donna Mott, also known as the blendermom, shares about walking in faith with her wonderful husband and three children in their blended family at She has written numerous articles and has been featured on sites such as, First Magazine for Women, Huffington Post,, South Africa’s All4Women,, and In February 2015, her youngest son at age 10 had brain surgery for Chiari Malformation. She is now passionate about spreading awareness of this incurable brain condition. At the end of the day, it's all about family, laughter and a whole lot of grace.