There’s someone I need more than my husband.

My husband indulges my dramatic stories,

But she’ll ask me to tell it again.

He knows what I want in my future.

But she knows all the secrets of my past.

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We all need someone who will talk you back into the house when you swear you’re going to leave it.

That’s who she is for me, and I need her.

She stands with me on the ledge, not above it.

She watches the kids so I can do a Target run.

She’s the door you never have to knock on.

She’s 10 calls in five minutes.

Every mom needs someone outside of the family crazy who can tell you it’s not that crazy.

Someone who makes coffee shops feel like ladies night.

And chips and salsa feel like a getaway.

We need a partner for Netflix binges and recipe fails.

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Someone who tells you that you are smart enough to go back to school.

Strong enough to stay home.

And boss enough to quit.

We need someone to screenshot old photos from high school, and who will burn all the evidence.

She’s the one who I psychoanalyze all my exes with.

Who will walk the block with me in prayer.

Marriage is wonderful.

Parenthood is a blessing.

But a friendship that spans that entire journey will give you perspective nothing else quite can.

There’s someone I need more than my husband.

And I think it’s OK to say that.

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This article was originally published on I’m That Wife: Marriage & Motherhood

Dr. Heather Thompson Day

Dr. Heather Thompson Day is an interdenominational speaker and contributor for Religion News Service, Newsweek and the Barna Group. She is also an Associate Professor of Communication at Colorado Christian University. She is passionate about supporting women, and runs an online community called I’m That Wife which has over 100k followers. Heather has been interviewed by BBC Radio Live, and believes her calling is to stand in the gaps of our churches for young people. She is the author of 6 books; including Confessions of a Christian Wife and How to Feed the Mediavore. She resides in Lakewood, Colorado with her husband, Pastor Seth Day, and their three children, London, Hudson, and Sawyer Day.