By Jennifer Kish 
I gave my 10-year-old a math test today. He spent nearly an hour and used four sheets of scratch paper. He worked each problem with intense concentration. And then with a deep breath, he handed it to me to be graded.
I quickly worked my way through the test and calculated his score.
“It’s an 89,” I said, “that’s a high B.”
Immediately, his eyes filled with tears. He had done his best work, given his greatest effort and had still come up short.
I looked at my boy and back down at his paper.
And then I ripped it in half.
My boy is amazing in the kitchen. He can cook a meal for the entire family without breaking a sweat.
My boy is incredible at putting things together. He uses tools like a skilled craftsman.
My boy is a founding member of the mother/son debate team (I just made that up). He can persuade me into doing things I never planned to do.
My boy is hilarious. He is always the first one to make a joke at the dinner table.
My boy is a sensitive soul. He’s kind and gentle when that sort of thing is necessary.
My boy is diligent. He will work at something until he feels it’s as good as it can be.
My boy is NOT defined by the grade on his math paper.
When I ripped that paper up, I looked my boy in the eyes and told him how I had watched him. How I saw him give his best, how he considered each problem and checked each one until he felt it was complete. I watched him erase and rework problems he was unsure of. I watched him pour every bit of effort in his little body into that test.
And I told him I had never been more proud.
Children are so much more than test scores. They are so much more than their reading level. They are so much more than the box we try to mold them in to.
School is important, education is important, but it’s not of highest importance.
I am more concerned with how he treats others, with his level of integrity and his desire to serve Jesus than any score on any test.
I am more concerned with his ability to learn how to use his talents to earn money for his family.
I am more concerned with the character that we are building than the division facts on the paper.
Our children should have an opportunity to show us where they excel, especially in the elementary years.
I was shocked at the pressure he felt to do well on that test. I never imagined the tears of disappointment that would fall. I admire his ambition and his desire to do well.
I have never been more proud of an 89 on a math test.
This article originally appeared on Sprinkles in My Closet with Jenn Kish
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