Journal Relationships

Salute to the Military Wife

Written by Bailey Suzio

When I said, “I do” three years ago, I wasn’t just joining my husband in marriage, I was also joining the ranks of military spouses all over the world. These men and women have answered their spouses call to serve by holding firm the Homefront. The women I have met have come beside me through deployments, driven me to the ER, and been there when life is just too hard. 

Here’s to you. 

Here’s to smiling during goodbyes, and crying as soon as you get to your car. 

Here’s to playing mom and dad for months at a time. 


Here’s to becoming way more handy with a tool kit than you ever anticipated because things seem to breakdown about the same time you do, in the middle of a deployment. 

Here’s to quietly celebrating birthdays, anniversaries, and Christmas alone. 

Here’s to knocking on your neighbor’s door and asking if they’ll be your child’s emergency contact because you just moved in, know no-one, and need to register them to school. 

Here’s to sitting alone in church. 

Here’s to loving a man so much you’d move anywhere to be with him, only to have him answer duty’s call and leave you behind in a brand new place. 

Here’s to making friends quickly. 

Here’s to planting roots and making this new city “home” only to pull those same roots up 24 months from now. 

Here’s to crying when he leaves, because adjusting to the new normal is hard. 

Here’s to crying when he returns, because adjusting to the new normal is hard. 

Here’s to dropping everything at the drop of a hat to take a fellow spouse to the ER when her husband’s gone because, well, you’ve been there too. 

Here’s to never knowing what to say when someone asks where home is. 

Here’s to pulling everything together during each and every move. 

Here’s to remembering that things are just things even as your cry over the tea cup from your grandma that the movers shattered. 

Here’s to cringing every time someone makes a poorly timed joke about military spouses being notorious adulterers. 

Here’s to cringing every time you hear of yet another case of adultery in your husband’s unit. 

Here’s to canceling your vacation plans because of an unexpected deployment. 

Here’s to watching the news obsessively because you want to know what’s happening. 

Here’s to avoiding every bit of news because it’s just too overwhelming. 

Here’s to months without even a phone call. 

Here’s to reminding yourself that no news is good news. 

Here’s to praying the doorbell never rings.

Here’s to knocks at the door with Starbucks and flowers when a friend knows he’s just been gone too dang long. 

Here’s to sitting around at 2am waiting for a homecoming that’s already been rescheduled 4 times. 

Here’s to swelling with pride (and let’s be real, tears) every time you hear the national anthem. 

But most of all, here’s to the spouses who bear the title, “Gold Star.” For you, this is not just a season to get through but a cross you will bear every day. May we always honor your sacrifice, remember your loss, and stand beside you. 

About the author

Bailey Suzio

Bailey Suzio’s journey started out in Michigan, where she grew up as the oldest of 10 (yes, ten) children, and has led her to Hawaii with her husband and their two dogs. She has greatly enjoyed this opportunity to explore the history and culture of the Hawaiian islands. In addition to her love for the Lord and her family, her great passions are coffee and collecting an exorbitant amount of books. Bailey has spent the last few years teaching and working with a local church. She writes at about her life, faith, and infertility journey.


  • This seriously gave me goosebumps. My husband enlisted in the Air Force weeks before we started dating. We have been married 6 years in a couple weeks. Luckily he has only had a few short deployments, but his last one was 3 months (which I shouldn’t even complain) but it was so hard. I kept trying to stay positive as we don’t have kids and a lot of other families have it a lot worse. Thanks for sharing this!

  • Currently going through ANOTHER deployment (again). Even after 18 years as an Army wife, it never gets easier saying, “See you later.”

  • This brought tears to my eyes. With a handful of deployments under my belt, I can honestly say it doesn’t get easier…we just learn to adapt. Cheers to you and your family! Thank you for your sacrifices.

  • Thank you for sharing this. I have a lovely friend who married a military man and I can’t imagine the sacrifices they and others like them have to make in order to keep our freedom. Thank you!

  • So much yes in this post! “Here’s to cringing every time you hear of yet another case of adultery in your husband’s unit.”

    Does it ever end? Lol

    Here’s to you, too!

  • What a beautiful post. MY husband was in the military when we met and about 5 more after that. I wish I had that camaraderie between military spouses, but honestly, had only two friends. One I met through work, and one was the wife of one of my husbands friends. I lived in a neighborhood with great neighbors though who I turned to. Everything else is spot on. Especially it being equally hard when they leave, and even when they return. Changing your routine that often is just not easy.

  • Beautiful post. Although my husband is no longer in the army I have alot of respect for those who serve and the families who support them. It can’t be easy.