To the mama trying to hold it all together,

I see the smile you show the rest of the world. I see the way you do everything you can to make sure things run smoothly, but I also see the truth you’re hiding from others. Maybe you’re even trying to hide it from yourself.

You’re worn out. You’re tired. You’re defeated, and you’re struggling to find the joy you once had.

You’re not the only one. So many of us are hiding the pain behind the smile. So many of us are trying to fool the people around us to think we have it all together while we’re crumbling inside.

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Stop running from it.

Stop pretending.

Stop fighting.

Don’t be afraid to reach out.

I’m here for you. I want to wrap my arms around you, cry with you, and hold you up when you can’t stand.

I want to walk beside you and carry the burden that weighs heavily on your shoulders. Let me help you lighten the load. 

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You don’t have to pretend any longer. You don’t have to keep stumbling through life.

There is hope. I’m reaching out my hand.


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Tynea Lewis

Tynea Lewis is a teacher turned freelance writer and watercolor artist. She and her husband are raising two girls, and they love spending time together at their family cabin. Tynea remembers loving to write as early as first grade, and she has a heart for encouraging women. She writes for various platforms, including Living By Design Ministries and Just Between Us. You can connect with her at, on Instagram (@TyneaLewis) or Facebook (@TyneaLewisWriter). Her original hand-painted greeting cards are available at

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