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6 Lessons I Wish I Had Learned Before My Late 30s

6 Lessons I Wish I Had Learned Before My Late 30's
Written by Barrie Bismark

Sometimes I wonder how different my life would be if I knew then what I know now. Things about life, loss, change, chances, family, and friendships. I definitely haven’t figured everything out in my old age of 37, but I know life is ever changing and I am learning as I go. Here are six things that I wish I would have learned before my late 30s.

  1. Enjoy the moment. Don’t rush things so much. Life goes by so much faster than you would ever believe. Don’t wish away time because you are searching for the next thing. Enjoy every moment you can.
  1. Remember who you are. Remember who you are and do as many of the things that you enjoy while you can. You will spend so much of your life being a wife and mother. Raising your kids and sacrificing for your family is the most important thing, but it is so easy to forget about yourself and your dreams. Before you know it you will be 37, stuck in a career path you never saw for yourself, and overwhelmed and exhausted by the trials of life. Do what you enjoy as much as possible.
  1. Don’t worry so much. Things do have a way of working out. Listen to your mom. She always said “everything always works out.”  Turns out she was right. It may not be in the ways that you thought or even the way you wanted, but it will work out the way it should. Worrying will only bring you to a worse place than you are in now. Things will go wrong and won’t go as planned, but nothing will be as daunting as you make it out to be in your head. Trust me.
  1. Take more chances. Without putting yourself out there, you will never know what you could become. It is easy to live your life in the safe and comfortable zone, but you will be left unfulfilled. Take the chance. You can do more than anyone thinks.
  1. Your best friendships are yet to come. You spend so much time in your youth worrying about your friends, how many friends you have, and what they think. It’s a waste of time. You will have great friends in life. Friends that will encourage you to leave your comfort zone and follow your passion. Friends that will stand by you at your worst moments and encourage you to keep going. Remember to stay connected to them. You need them. More than you think you do.
  1. Be proud of yourself. You have worked really hard to get to where you are. Although it may not be where you want to be, it is where you are. Learn to appreciate the hard work you have put it. You have to be a fan of yourself. Others won’t appreciate your hard work and dedication and will try to squash your dreams, but don’t let them bring you down. You have a lot to offer and you don’t give up.

Life is scary and ever changing. Learn to enjoy the chaos of it all before it is too late.

About the author

Barrie Bismark

I’m Barrie. I’m sarcastic, vocal, stubborn, strong willed, and kind of a pain in the ass. I have a husband who I have been married to for 11 years and three beautiful children boy (8), girl (6), and girl (3).I am a full-time working mom and I love spending as much time as I can with my husband and children. Being a mom is one of the hardest things I have ever done, but also one of the most rewarding. I am amazed every day at the chaos, laughs, adventures, and exhaustion that motherhood brings.

I have been featured on Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Babble, Parent Co., Sammiches and Psych Meds, For Every Mom, and am a contributing writer on Suburban Misfit Mom and Modern Mom.


  • Number four! It took me until I hit 30 before I started taking more risks in my life. Now, at 36, I don’t want to stop taking risks…no safe living for me. Everything that’s worth anything is on the other side of fear. Great post!

  • Ah, man, I’m slightly older than you. I was, shall we say, a bit wild in my teens and twenties. I think I could write such a list for myself but it would be much less diplomatic! Great advice for anyone ‘though. I follow most of it now, wish I had when younger #BrillaintBlogPosts

  • Every single one of these resonated with me. I’m 33 now and finally starting to feel as though I GET IT. It’s a wonderful feeling and makes life so much richer. Brilliant blog post indeed! X #brilliantblogposts

  • Love this, I am about to be 42 and I often say, If only I knew then what I know now! My 40’s are by far the most enjoyable and I achieved my goal to retire… I love life xx #brilliantblogposts

  • I love these. Truly great reflections and great lessons. Many that I can relate to as well. Some of these I have learn to do over the last few years, and some things I still need to get better at 🙂 Emily #BrilliantBlogPosts

    • Thank you! These are tough lessons to learn. I am still “practicing” some of them myself. Hard to change your ways. Thanks for reading!

  • I have to remember the don’t worry so much point… Great post and great points. 🙂
    Visiting from the little bit of everything Wednesday party.

  • So much love for this <3 Ive shared on Twitter I hope you don't mind! A lot of Mommas out there need advice like this! <3

  • I turn 40 just before Christmas. I talked to a 12 year old the other day and realized how much time I spent worrying about “silly” things at that age. It’s amazing how different we are from year to year and decade to decade!

    Thanks so much for posting this at the traffic jam weekend link party for me to find! Can’t wait to read more.

  • Such a great post! I just turned 29 yesterday, and literally just started my blog a few weeks ago – so many of the things you noted in your post resonate with me 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

    Sarah Bell