We all know the type. Or we have at least heard about it. The crazy, demanding, and picky bride. I will admit that I have mocked, laughed at, and avoided this type of person never having had a wedding myself. I have always thought, “It’s just a wedding, calm down. What should matter most is the person that will stand across from you that day.”
Well, here I am, less than five weeks away from my wedding day and I am worried that I may have turned into a Bridezilla in the most unexpected way. Throughout the process of planning my wedding it seems that every other word out of my mouth has been “no,” as if I were a stubborn toddler. “No, I don’t want those,” “No that won’t be needed,” “What we have picked out is fine.” I’ve turned down everything from chandeliers, expensive dresses, and fancy décor to extravagant venues and excessive details. None of which matters to my actual wedding day.
Don’t get me wrong, there will still be a beautiful dress, a lovely venue, and wonderful food, but all of that shouldn’t be what I remember when I reflect back on my wedding day. I want to remember the way that day made me feel. The way I felt when my dad walked me down the aisle, the way I felt when Andrew saw me for the first time or when we are saying our vows, the way I felt when we are officially announced as husband and wife and the way I felt knowing that we have our entire future to look forward to together. Those feelings are what truly matters when it comes to my wedding day.
I may be a pain and seem demanding when I say “no” to everything, but I am not doing it to be difficult. I am doing it based on my principles knowing that in the end the décor, perfectly matching attire, and fancy menu are not at all what truly matter. Trust me when I say that there are much more valuable things in life to spend your time, money and hopes on.
Whether you are a bride, groom, or helping someone you love plan their wedding, try not to get caught up in the material things and remember the true meaning of a wedding.
My opinion about weddings still holds true. All that matters to me on December 22nd is that my fiancé, whom I love dearly, is standing across from me and that our families are there to witness that special moment.