I don’t believe in divorce. I’m also divorced. I guess that makes me a hypocrite, but it’s the truth.

As a Christian, I know that a cord of three strands is not easily broken, but I married someone who wasn’t a Christian. So, how does that work? Well, for me, it didn’t. 

I’m not saying it can’t work for a Christian and an Atheist to be married. Heck, I have seen relationships where it’s worked. But for me, marrying someone who wasn’t a Christian was the beginning of the end of our relationship and it was something that had me very torn for several years.

I believe that too many people quit too easy. I believe that when you say, “I do,” you should mean it and you should do everything in your power to make it work. I believe marriage is a promise you make to your spouse and God and it is God who will get you through the hard times.

As a Christian wife, I believe you’re supposed to stand by your husband, supporting him and following him. As a Christian wife married to a man who isn’t Christian, it’s hard to find the line. When do you stand up for your husband and when do you stand up for what you believe as a Christian?

This is something I certainly struggled with and I wish this blog was about the answers to that question. But what I learned isn’t how to deal with the struggles of marrying someone who isn’t a believer. What I learned is that God will set you back on His path if you start to stray, even if that means divorce.

So, I don’t believe in divorce, but I do believe in a God who is greater than any mistake you could ever make, who will always lead your path back to Him, and who works everything for the good of those who love Him. 

And next time I say “I do,” if there is a next time, I know it’ll be a decision that I’ll be asking God to be a big part of, for a cord of three strands is not easily broken, but a cord of two can quickly come unraveled. 

Lacy Jo Donald

I, like many mothers, can't remember my life before I had children. I adore my children and love to spend time with them. I also love my job, God and my family!