So God Made a Mother Collection ➔

My husband Kyle and I will celebrate 10 years of marriage on New Year’s Eve. It’s a milestone to recognize although I won’t try to pretend we know it all. We have much to learn in the years ahead. God willing, we’ll be here to celebrate 20, 40 maybe even 60 years of wedded bliss.

Here’s what we’ve learned over the past 10 years. What would you add to your own suggestion list for a happy marriage? I would love to hear from you. 

  1. The moment I knew Kyle was the one, I felt nervous and giddy and full of excitement. I still feel that way. Some days the flutter turns into a slow flap, especially during those years when our girls were screaming infants. But it’s still there. It’s always been there. Make sure you keep the flutter. 
  2. I often hear people say marriage is work. I suppose that’s one way to describe it. Although truthfully, I’ve never felt that way. If you’re going to use work as a descriptive term for your marriage, at least make it be a casual Friday. Or better yet, the Friday before a long holiday weekend. My marriage always feels like the Friday before a three day break. Relaxed, exciting and full of new discoveries. 
  3. It’s OK to disagree. We’ve had arguments. Only one bothered me longer than a few hours. And even that one was over by morning. Disagreements will happen. But make sure they don’t last too long. Grudges don’t look good on anyone.
  4. It’s OK to let the guy lead. I’m actually surprised I wrote that sentence, especially in 2014. But when I look back on our 10 years, I recognize something about myself that I’ve known all along. I like Kyle to lead our family. We make decisions together but he is our protector. He protects the girls and he protects me. I like that. I want that. It works for us.
  5. Just because my guy leads, it doesn’t mean he makes all the decisions. We make those together. Sometimes his idea is the way we roll; sometimes it’s mine. It’s more important to listen to each other and make the best choice for the entire family. 
  6. Never talk badly about your spouse. This should go without saying but I’ve seen it. Don’t do that. Be proud of him. Be proud of her. Talk them up.
  7. Make sacrifices for each other. Kyle left an incredible job after our first year of marriage to come back to Nebraska for my job. He supports me on a daily basis even though I have crazy dreams and ideas. The only reason I am able to dream is because I have his support. And because of that support, I truly believe anything is possible. 
  8. Learn how to find adventure in the small moments. In our 10 years of marriage we have moved, worked jobs with strange hours and had two little girls less than two years apart. Vacations and date nights have been very slim for us. And that’s OK. We watch movies when the girls go to bed or sneak away for lunch during our workday. We have fun during the day to day routine. 
  9. Help each other with house work and the kids. I wash the laundry, he folds. If I cook, he puts the kids to bed. If he cooks, I put the kids to bed. Raising children and keeping a home clean takes effort from both sides. I can’t imagine doing all of the housework without his help. Plus, the kids would eat a lot of burned food and the laundry would never be folded without him. 
  10. I genuinely like the guy. It’s a choice to like him. It’s an honor to love him. I’m a girl who wears sweatpants way too often and likely doesn’t deserve a man as wonderful as Kyle. When you find someone incredible, don’t mess it up. I’ll spend the rest of my life making sure I remember just how lucky I am.

1

2

3

kyle and les 10

[adrotate banner=”81″]

LWC-Spotlight-SideAd (2)

Leslie Means

Leslie is the founder and owner of Her View From Home.com. She is also a former news anchor, published children’s book author, weekly columnist, and has several published short stories as well. She is married to a very patient man. Together they have three fantastic kids.  When she’s not sharing too much personal information online and in the newspaper – you’ll find Leslie somewhere in Nebraska hanging out with family and friends. There’s also a 75% chance at any given time, you’ll spot her in the aisles at Target.

Lent For Kids: 40 Ways To Spend 40 Days

In: Featured, Kids
Cross with bird

Today is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of the Lenten season leading to Easter. Our 3-year-old has been talking about the Easter bunny since January, when he finally understood that Christmas was over. While I’m happy he’s excited for the upcoming holiday, I really want to find some good, concrete ways to help him learn that this time of year is not only about bunnies and candy in eggs. So, I’ve decided to come up with 40 ways to spend the 40 days of Lent with kids. Some of these will work better with older children, while others are great for...

Keep Reading

Chocolate Pot de Crème

In: Featured, Kitchen

Chocolate and romance go hand in hand and with Valentine’s Day around the bend, why not have a beautifully simple and romantic dessert on the menu? With Valentine’s Day falling on a Saturday, it might be a little more difficult to get those reservations to go out to eat to celebrate. If you end up staying home, why not have an easy, romantic dessert to finish your meal? Made in a blender or food processor and refrigerated, this recipe is easy to make and the result can be a beautiful and elegant dessert that will put the perfect cap on...

Keep Reading

Creamy Chicken and Rice Soup

In: Featured, Kitchen

Written By:  Rachel Gnagy @ Inscribed Photography & Design (recipe originally from here) One of my favorite ‘girly’ meals to make is soup served in bread bowls. I love getting the Broccoli Cheese soup at Quizno’s (it’s healthy because it has broccoli, right?) and Panera’s Cream of Chicken & Wild Rice soup. YUM. So when I saw a recipe on Pinterest for creamy chicken and rice soup, I thought I would give it a try! You will need: 1 Tablespoon of olive oil 2-3 carrots, sliced 2 cloves of garlic, minced 5 cups of chicken stock 1 cup of cooked chicken,...

Keep Reading

Chicken Cordon Bleu for Two

In: Featured, Kitchen

Written By:  Rachel @ Inscribed Photography (Recipe originally from here) Valentine’s Day is coming up and with that in mind I wanted to bring you an easy, delicious meal for you and your special man. This recipe is by far the easiest Chicken Cordon Bleu recipe and it is super yummy too! Pair it with some steamed veggies on the side and something chocolatey for dessert and you’re all set for a romantic dinner for two. For the chicken, you will need: 2 chicken breasts, cut in half lengthwise 8 slices of deli ham 8 slices of Swiss cheese 1...

Keep Reading

Easy Weeknight Beef Stroganoff

In: Featured, Kitchen

We all have those heirloom recipes we grew up with, but when you get married you inherit a whole new set of recipes your spouse grew up with, too. This stroganoff recipe is one that my husband grew up eating and then cooked frequently for himself before I took over in the kitchen. (ha.) He made it for me once while we were dating, and I will admit – I was super skeptical. Generally, these sorts of humble dishes aren’t my cup of tea – the ones made with cream-of canned soups and noodles. However, I tried it and was...

Keep Reading

Hanging Onto Hope: The Dream That Saved My Baby Girl

In: Faith, Featured, Journal, Kids
Hanging Onto Hope: The Dream That Saved My Baby Girl www.herviewfromhome.com

Family and friends often assure pregnant women that their “maternal instincts” can be relied on to guide them into motherhood. This previously undiscovered gift will reveal itself the first time she holds her child. As a mother of four I believe in this instinct, but also recognize that experience and wisdom help. The birth of our fifth child, Kinsley, has introduced me to another source of guidance and strength that I never anticipated. Kinsley was born the day after Christmas. She was pink, beautiful and certified by the medical staff as being in perfect health. She was welcomed with unconditional...

Keep Reading

Bow Your Head and Vote, Yes the Outcome is Rigged

In: Featured
Bow Your Head and Vote, Yes the Outcome is Rigged www.herviewfromhome.com

“Keep in mind this is God’s plan! And who am I to dare question God’s plan!” I say it over and over as I watch this mess unfold before me. This mess, America is calling an election. I have never been impressed with the two-party system. It allows too much power to a select few and limits our freedoms. So, as I watch and listen and pray, as Trump and Clinton march to the White House, I only hope more Americans now see the disaster that is the two-party system. Two people that should be sitting in jail are now...

Keep Reading

This Kick-Ass Cancer Survivor Shares 20 Easy Ways To Make Your Life Healthier Today

In: Featured, Health, Healthy Living, Mental Health, Motherhood
This Kick-Ass Cancer Survivor Shares 20 Easy Ways To Make Your Life Healthier Today www.herviewfromhome.com

I recently went through quite an experience with my health. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in September of 2015. Following my diagnosis, I underwent a treatment regimen of chemotherapy, double mastectomy, and then, 28 rounds of radiation.  Before my diagnosis, I felt the healthiest I have probably, in my whole life. I was exercising regularly. Eating, conscious of my health. And after birthing three kids in 6 years, finding ways to focus on myself once again. And then — WHAM — cancer.  Excuuuuuuuuse me?!?! Cancer?!? I was, for all intents and purposes, a 33-year-old with great habits and a great...

Keep Reading

The Great Melt Down

In: Faith, Featured, Kids, Kitchen
The Great Melt Down www.herviewfromhome.com

When my brother Bobby and I were little kids, one of the great treats of summer was a journey to a neighboring town where my dad would buy each of us a hand-dipped ice cream cone. During the drive home, my mom would turn around from the front seat and point out drips that we back-seat-riders needed to lick up quick. I, the ever-eager pleaser, would anxiously eat my ice cream as quickly as possible, barely taking a breath between licks. Bobby, on the other hand, came up with the more reasonable response. He would grin at Mom and bite...

Keep Reading

The Best (and free) Drug Prevention Strategy

In: Featured, Health, Healthy Living, Kids, Relationships
The Best (and free) Drug Prevention Strategy www.herviewfromhome.com

A secret Facebook group has been uncovered by police that connects kids as young as 12 years-old to places where they can buy drugs. (see the link to the story at the end of this blog)  Shocking? Yes. Surprising? No. Kids find a way, don’t they? So what can we do? There are apps we can buy. There are rules we can make. There are punishments we can deliver.  Yet the best prevention of all is our relationship with our young people.  Time together, conversation, and honest sharing of our lives is the most effective way to influence our kids–even...

Keep Reading

Get our FREE phone wallpaper to encourage you as the new school year begins

It's bittersweet for a mother to watch her child grow—but you both are ready to soar.