Don’t forget the mom.

Whatever you do, please don’t forget her.

Family members, when you go to visit her and her newborn and want to snap a picture with that sweet little baby, remember who is always behind the camera taking those pictures. Turn around and tell her to pose with that baby, too. Don’t forget the mom.

Friends, when you are wondering how the baby is sleeping and eating, feel free to ask about it. Also remember that motherhood is incredibly challenging and can make some women feel so lonely and down. Ask her how she is doing too. And then ask her how she is REALLY doing. Don’t forget the mom.

Co-workers, when she drops her baby off at daycare or school for the first time, it might be one of the hardest days of her life. You might be interested in how the child did on their first day—was she crying or excited? But make sure you show her grace that day, because leaving your child with someone else can be heartbreaking. Don’t forget the mom.

Husband, when the kids seem to be loving time with you because you are the “fun one” that’s great. She probably loves the break and time to herself. But there might also be times she feels overlooked. Invite her into the fun. Don’t forget the mom.

Best girlfriends, when you are planning a girls’ night, invite her. Even if she hasn’t been able to make it to the last 10 outings because her kids’ schedules are insane. She wants to still be included. Don’t forget the mom.

Fellow moms, when her child is going off to college for the first time, she may be devastated. A piece of her heart is leaving her home and may be going farther away than ever. She may need a shoulder to cry on, and being that you’re a momma too, you may be able to understand that feeling better than anyone. Reach out to her even if she seems OK. Don’t forget the mom.

To her own kids, when you are grown adults and have a family of your own, she might feel like she is not as needed as she once was. She might have a hard time figuring out what her new purpose is in her day-to-day life. Even though you are grown, she is still a mom. She can’t get rid of that title. Invite her over and let her help with the kids that she will inevitably adore. She still wants to be a big part of your life. Don’t forget the mom.

Moms are easy to overlook because they master the art of acting like they are OK even when they aren’t, and they focus so much more on others than themselves. Make sure to look out for her. Don’t forget the mom.

Kelli Bachara

Kelli is a mental health therapist, momma to two (one currently cooking in the womb), and wife to an amazing man with a cool name, Rocco. Kelli loves 90s pop rock, Hallmark Christmas movies, her dog Winnie, and Jesus (in reverse order).