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Hey girl! 

I cringe. Do I dare open it? I do, of course. It’s a new friend I’ve followed on social media, so I try to be kind and just make an excuse as to why I don’t want to do any weight loss challenges.

Just 30 minutes a day, it’s so simple. You can make time to work out if you wanted to! You should take care of yourself.

I run low on excuses after a minute because hey, you’re absolutely right. There is an extra 30 minutes in my day spent scrolling through Facebook and Pinterest. OK, if we are being honest it’s multiple extra 30 minutes. I could definitely make the time to exercise.

But guess what, honey? I don’t want to.

Yep, you read that correctly. I don’t want to make the time. I know you see I just had a baby a few months ago, I’m carrying around a little something extra in my waistline; you think I must feel so horrible about myself, that I must want to change how I look. And you have the perfect solution, the perfect at-home workout routine and shakes to go with it. You just want to help. But let me be real for a minute—I don’t want to be fixed. I’m still chubby, I like food and I don’t fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans.

And I’m perfectly happy.

I’m a mom of three and my body shows it. It’s stretched and jiggly. It’s been through hormone storm after hormone storm. It took me a long time to be comfortable in this mom body skin, but I’m comfortable now. I think my body is pretty dang amazing.

My days are spent chasing toddlers and changing diapers. Pulling one off of the stair banister before she falls and pulling the other out of the toilet because toilet water is fun to play in. Feeding our two-month-old every two hours and having him strapped to my chest in between. My days are spent cleaning the house and pretending it’s making a difference. They’re spent in a spiral of chaos and when I do have that extra 30 minutes to spare I want to use it scrolling through Pinterest. It is what it is.

Call it lazy—it probably is. But I’m allowed to be. Anyone is allowed to be lazy. We don’t all have to want that slimmer body filled with kale and fitness shakes. So please don’t take offense that I don’t want to join your workout challenge. Please don’t be shocked that I don’t feel like changing my body at the moment.

One day, I may decide working out is something I’m willing to do—and when I do, I’ll be sure to let you know. But for now I’m going to celebrate my body as-is. Extra weight around my middle and all.

Ashley Moore

Ashley is a stay-at-home mom to three kids and two Dalmatians that keep her on her feet. She loves reading, writing, and putting off hohusework. And she’s an expert on sarcasm, winging it, and enjoying the little things this crazy life has to offer. 

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