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I spend a lot of time wondering if I’m doing it right as a mother.

When I turn off the TV and tell my 7-year-old he has had too much screen time already. When I tell my daughter that if she doesn’t eat her veggies, she can’t have any dessert. When I yell at my kids because no one was getting ready for bath time as I had asked. When I am more than happy to drop off my kids with the grandparents so I can have some me-time.

I spend a lot of time wondering if I’m doing it right as a stay-at-home parent.

When I serve the kids leftovers instead of a fresh, home-cooked meal at dinnertime. When my husband runs out of underwear because I forgot to do the laundry. When my kid still has a hole in his pants because it was sitting in my to-do pile all week. When I complain about the thankless task of being the stay-at-home parent.

I spend a lot of time wondering if I’m doing it right as a wife.

When I am quicker to point out what my husband did wrong than what he did right. When I don’t cook my husband his favorite food even though I know he would love it if I did. When I’m not as understanding of my husband’s needs as I expect him to be of mine. When I forget my husband is an equal partner on this journey of parenthood.

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I spend a lot of time wondering if I’m doing it right as a friend.

When I don’t initiate phone calls or texts with my friends as much as they do with me. When I don’t pick up the phone if someone calls me because I’m too engrossed in my own stuff to talk. When I don’t make plans to get together until I feel a nagging sense I should because I haven’t seen anyone in months. When I forget to ask, “How are you doing?”

I spend a lot of time wondering if I’m doing it right as a writer.

When I struggle to put down my thoughts on a page and can’t write more than a sentence. When I get rejected many times over on an essay I poured my heart into. When I worry about what people will think of what I write rather than just feeling free to write. When I write about the struggles in life more than the joyous moments.

I spend a lot of time wondering if I’m doing anything right in my life.

And then I have to remind myself, I am doing my best. Whatever my best may be in that moment.

I may not always be doing it right as a mother, but I’m being the best mother I know how to be in that moment.

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I may not always be doing it right as a stay-at-home parent, but I’m being the best stay-at-home parent I know how to be in that moment.

I may not always be doing it right as a wife, but I’m being the best wife I know how to be in that moment.

I may not always be doing it right as a friend, but I’m being the best friend I know how to be in that moment.

I may not always be doing it right as a writer, but I’m being the best writer I know how to be in that moment.

At the end of the day, that is all I can do, and that is all anyone can do.

And that IS enough.

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Wendy C

Wendy C has been married over a decade to her husband. They have three children together. She has been published on Scary MommyThe Globe & Mail,  Filter Free Parents and the Yummy Mummy Club.  In her spare time, she creates custom cakes and cupcakes at Wendy’s Cake Shoppe.

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