I’ve written before about my struggle with comparison and the fear of missing out that we all struggle with, but something different has been bothering me lately. It took me a while to “pin”point it (I crack myself up…), but I think I’ve finally put my finger on what it is.
My life isn’t like Pinterest.
That seems like the most obvious statement, but it took me a few days of feeling constantly messy, stressed and confused before I realized that all of the “inspirations”- perfect homes, perfect hair, perfect outfits- that I pinned daily were actually weighing me down, causing me to be dissatisfied with my real life.
*Disclaimer* I am in no way saying that we should give up Pinterest or stop trying to better our lives or find inspiration online- I’m only writing about a revelation I had that has enabled me to use it with more freedom and less angst.
You see, online we are given fake (or at least 1/2 true) versions of life- a gorgeous, minimalistic, fully styled living room with everything in its perfect place; a flawless face/body on Instagram after an intense workout; a beautiful loaf of homemade bread that didn’t sink in at all….
But we forget that these are images. They’re not real life. That living room doesn’t look like that 90% of the time. Her flawless body does, in fact, have trouble spots and flabby areas. And that loaf of bread took 6 tries to perfect.
As great as Pinterest is, and trust me, I use it A LOT, it is easy to get discouraged by what we see there and think our life is somehow less valuable or worthy since it isn’t “picture perfect.”
Take my home for example:
(I find it ironic that this is the post I chose to show you photos of my home. I’ve been waiting till it gets just a little more organized, decorated and clean to do a home tour…but now at least you’ll get the “real life” version.)
|That pile of dishes was much bigger this morning.|
|Yes, that’s a dog toy next to our breakfast. And a completely bare, huge wall…|
|Why there are three coffee mugs on her dresser? I couldn’t tell you.|
|And this one because I love how her little wall turned out.|
Feel better about yourself yet? That took some guts to post, let me tell you. I’d love for you all to think that my house looks like a Pinterest board, but I’ve just shattered all of those dreams in one fell swoop.
So the moral of my story is this:
Real life is messy.
I’m not a perfect mom. Sometimes Evie goes three days without a bath. Sometimes I raise my voice at her and don’t count to ten before I react. Sometimes I let her stay in her crib for an extra 10 minutes so I can lay in bed just a liiiiitle bit longer.
I’m not a perfect wife. AJ and I argue about pointless things. The other day we argued about Bruno Mars lyrics; he thought it said Saturday and I thought Friday. He was right. Sometimes I forget to say thank you for the way he provides and how hard he works to be a good daddy and husband.
My body isn’t perfect. Sometimes I wear the same pair of sweats for an entire week. Sometimes I don’t wear a drop of makeup for an entire week. Sometimes I don’t leave the house.
My house is (obviously) not perfect. Whenever my mom comes over and I apologize for the mess she says, “its not messy, its just lived in.” I love that.
We learn in the mess. We would never be able to get that beautifully decorated home if we didn’t have a few faux pas first. We can never have a picture perfect dinner without making a mess out of the kitchen before hand. But life doesn’t have to be Pinterest perfect after all- because it’s real. And that’s what matters.