You Kept the Kids Alive, But I’m the One Who Couldn’t
I hear it at least once a week–usually from a meme on social media. Someone joking that “at least I kept the kids alive.” While other moms…
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The Only Crying When Brendan Was Born Was Mine
I had a son. His name was Brendan. He would have been 11 years old this September. The kids were thrilled to be adding #8 to our beautiful family,…
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To the Pregnant Woman: Take the Picture
I’m not one to issue advice, especially when no one’s asking. I am especially hesitant to offer advice to a person when they are pregnant, but I…
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We Have One of Each, But Our Family Isn’t Perfect
When my 20-week anatomy scan revealed I was carrying a baby boy, our whole family was excited. He was the little brother my daughter had prayed for.…
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Dear Abby, You Got it All Wrong
Oh, Abby. I saw your column today—the one where you gave advice to Crystal in Nevada. She wrote to you asking how to cope with her aunt who had a…
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Though You Were Born Still, I Carry You Forever in My Heart
They said there was no heartbeat. They said you left. They said you died inside of me. And while that is true, we both know that you never really…
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The Invisible Mother Hurts and Hopes
In a world full of mothers, so many of them seem to go unnoticed, unrecognized. Forgotten. They belong to a special class of mothers who walk amongst…
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My Baby Was Stillborn, But Still Born
My baby was stillborn, but still born. In a cool white hospital room where so many had been born before. My body trembled and shook as his body…
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To the Nurse Who Held My Stillborn Baby
I trudged through those steel doors of the labor and delivery unit, my legs weak, my body unstable. It wasn’t the pregnancy weight that…
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