I’m terrible at being a girl. I’ve never seen Pitch Perfect, never read a Nicholas Sparks novel, and can count on one hand the number of times that I’ve worn makeup in my entire lifetime (applied by a friend because this girl has no intention of displaying her meager art skills on her face). I don’t own, nor have I ever once worn, a pair of high heels. I’m practical to a fault, and want everything in my life to be functional, not merely decorative. I was born without a fancy bone in my body, and I’m at peace with that.
Our fall favorites are here! 🍂
When our first kiddo arrived in all of HIS glory, I breathed a sigh of relief. I just knew that I was meant to spend my days as a BoyMom – we would hang out on the Island of Sodor, fix broken tricycles, and have lightsaber wars after second breakfast. We would “get” each other.
Imagine my terror when, 26 short months later, my husband placed a perfectly pink bundle in my arms. I prayed with all my heart that she would be a tomboy, but God had other plans. She was a diva from the start, and within a few short years it became obvious that I was out of my element when it came to dealing with my girly girl. She asked for painted nails and tutus, and squealed at the sight of anything even remotely sparkly. Heck, as a toddler she even made digging in the mud look glamorous! She was beautiful and stubborn and seemed to have glitter running through her veins.
When I would point out a butterfly, marveling at the fact that God made them with perfect bilateral symmetry, she’d laugh and tell me how they looked like flower petals blowing in the breeze. When we were choosing the bedding for her first big girl bed and I was agonizing over thread counts and durability, she was standing in front of the set that was most garishly girly, squealing with excitement. We are the epitome of form versus function, and we often find ourselves at an impasse as we struggle to find a common point of view.
As the years have gone by, and we’ve added two more little girls to our retinue, I’ve tried to indulge their fanciful whims when the occasion arises, even though I don’t understand the attraction. Recently a local photographer was offering “sparkle” sessions – there would be fancy dresses, delicate pink treats, and LOTS of glitter. I knew this would quite possibly be their vision of paradise. When we arrived at the studio and my big girl and her little sisters saw the rack of dresses that they were to choose from, something literally blossomed inside them. They glowed. Where I saw impractical, flimsy gauze, they saw a beautiful gown and a matching tiara. While I was inwardly groaning over the possibility of spending the next six weeks picking glitter out of their hair, my girls imagined that they were princesses. In that moment I was floored by the magic that they found in the simplest things. As they twirled and grinned under a shower of golden sparkle, I realized that instead of teaching them how to see the practical details in life, they were teaching me to see the breathtaking, bigger picture.
I’ll never take glitter for granted again.
Professional photography courtesy of Rutheah from Blue House Fotos.
There is something about a toothless grin. Not the gummy smile of infancy, but the wide-gapped delight of a child who has newly lost a tooth. Today’s was not the first tooth my son has lost—the first was over a year ago—but today, the fifth tooth, was a top one, and today his smile seemed to announce with an oh, so in my face clarity, that he and I had better make room for adulthood (or at least, pre-tweendom?). He is shedding his babyhood. Those teeth that kept me up at night on their way in have outgrown their use....
If you are the parents who just sat for hours in a cold doctor’s office to hear that your child has a life-threatening illness, you are so strong. If you are the parents who can’t bring yourself to decorate or celebrate the unknown because you don’t know if they’ll ever come home, you are so strong. If you are the parents who travel or relocate to deliver your child in one of the best hospitals with hopes it will change the outcome, you are so strong. If you are the parents who learn all the medical terminology so you understand...
Those who mean well squawk the refrain— “The days are long, but the years are short.” They said I would miss it— little feet and newborn baby smell nursing in the wee hours with a tiny hand clutching mine. Tying shoes, playing tooth fairy, soothing scary dreams. They were fine times, but I do not wish them back. RELATED: Mamas, Please Quit Mourning Your Children Growing Up I rather enjoy these days of my baby boy suddenly looking like a young man in a baseball uniform on a chilly Wednesday in April. And my Amazonian teenage girl with size 11...
We were having a hard morning. Our house was overrun with toys, I hadn’t had a chance to get dressed, and my stress level was increasing by the minute. To top it all off, my 3-year-old was having a meltdown anytime I spoke to her. Even looking in her general direction was a grave mistake. It was one of those days that as a parent, you know you’re really in for it. I was quickly losing my patience. My frustration began to ooze out of me. I snapped orders, stomped around, and my attitude quite clearly was not pleasant to...
I don’t remember my first period, which means my mother had me well prepared. This doesn’t mean I was okay with it. I remember feeling awkward and tense each time. And honestly, for many years, shopping for feminine hygiene products filled me with unease. But wait a minute! There shouldn’t be anything shameful about something that will recur for about half of a woman’s life! Who decided it was to be a sensitive subject? Aren’t we all supposed to show empathy toward each other when it comes to this? I say, pass the Midol around, sister! I knew the time...
We had just pulled into the driveway when our youngest grandtwins, 3-year-old Ellis and Brady, came running out the front door and down the steps to hug us. “Let me see your earrings, Grandma,” Ellis said, reaching up to pull me down to his level. “The green M&Ms! I told you, Brady!” “Those are the ones our brother Adler picked out for you!” Brady yelled as he ushered us into the house and started going through the tote bag I always carry for them, filled with favorite books from our house and three little bags of snacks in the bottom....
Sweet child, I know you want to grow up. You want to get older and do more and more. I see you changing day after day. You are no longer a little girl, but you’re turning into a young lady. You’re becoming this wonderful person who leads and cares for others. It’s a beautiful thing to watch. But don’t rush out of your childhood. It’s this beautiful season where wonder and discovery live. It’s this beautiful time when you don’t have to carry the weight of adulthood. It’s this beautiful time. Savor it. Slow down and enjoy it. Breathe in...
There is something incredibly special about band kids. The hours of practice that begin in elementary school. It’s the squeaking and squawking of a new alto or the flutter of early flute days, high-pitched honks from a trumpet, constant and consistent tapping . . . drumming on everything. And gallons of spit too, until one day a few years down the road, you realize all that practice time has turned into an incredible melody and skill. The alarm that goes off at 5:35 a.m., and before most people are awake, band kids have sleepily found a quick breakfast bite, grabbed...
On her seventh day of school, my kindergartener doesn’t cry. It was a long road to this day. For the first six days of school, we experienced varying degrees of screaming, clinging, running back inside our house and slamming the door, and expressing general displeasure with the whole idea of school. “I wanna stay home with YOU, Mommy!” “But Charlotte, you are bored out of your mind every day of the summer. You hate it.” “No I don’t. I LOVE IT.” “Well we can spend every afternoon after school and all weekend together. You’ll be tired of me in five...
Six . . . Six is only one number more than five, one grade, one year . . . but it feels so different. Five is baby teeth and new beginnings. Five is venturing out into the world, maybe making a friend. Meeting a teacher. Learning to ride a bike. Six took my breath away. Six looks like a loose front tooth—tiny and wiggly, soon to be replaced by a big tooth, one that will stay forever. Six looks like a bright purple bike zooming down the driveway. RELATED: When There Are No More Little Girls’ Clothes Six looks like playing...