Free shipping on all orders over $75🎄

“I just can’t sleep!” With red-rimmed eyes, tears still staining her cheeks, my 9-year-old daughter defeatedly shared, “No matter what I do, I just can’t shut off my brain.”

It was the third night my daughter wrestled with sleep. While this week had been particularly difficult, it was becoming a tradition that every few weekswe would spend hours cuddling and calming down my daughter’s anxious mind and fragile heart.

Knowing her class had standardized testing the next day, I was not surprised when I heard the muffled sobs, followed by her showing up in my room. This school year had been a steep learning curve with the transition to numerical grades, classes divided by academic capability, and weeks upon weeks of goal setting, benchmarking, and comparison to classmates in numerous rounds of state testing. 

RELATED: Raising a Child Who Has Anxiety Is Exhausting

I’ve worked to teach my daughter that we are not all on the same level academically, our gifts and talents are unique, and our skills are diverse. Tests and grades are wonderful tools to evaluate our current ability, pointing to areas of opportunity for growth and further learning. However, we must be careful not to let the numbers determine our worth. 

Daughter, you are more than a number. A test score does not determine your capability to learn. A first-place ribbon doesn’t determine your talent.

A certain number of points scored doesn’t determine your athleticism. A number on the scale doesn’t determine your beauty. 

The number of friends you have doesn’t determine your likeability. The more relationships you have doesn’t determine you are worth loving.

The amount of money in your bank account doesn’t determine your success. The number of clubs, groups, and organizations you are a part of doesn’t determine your value.

RELATED: A Prayer For Daughters

There will be many lies about your value and worth. You are not valuable because of what you do but because of who you are. Setting goals for yourself, working hard to achieve a dream, and acing a test are all good, but you don’t need others’ approval or validation.

Daughter, you are many things. You are wonderfully made. You are significant. You are more precious. You are valuable.

You are uniquely created. You have immense worth. You have a purpose. You are loved. 

And always remember, you are more than a number. 

So God Made a Mother book by Leslie Means

If you liked this, you'll love our new book, SO GOD MADE A MOTHER available now!

Order Now

Laura Bailey

Laura Bailey is a wife and mom of three young girls. You can find her drinking cold coffee, playing barbies, and trying to figure out a way for the laundry to fold itself. She writes with honesty and humor on her blog,

7 Things Your Middle School Daughter Needs To Hear From You

In: Motherhood, Teen, Tween
Mother and tween daughter

Most people only do middle school once. I’m sitting happily in year 15. I spent three years of my young life as an adolescent middle school student and eventually walked into a career that would keep me in that world forever. Teaching middle school keeps me in the constant awareness that out of all ages, this is the one right here. Out of all the humans we have walking around this earth, middle school aged ones are the cream of the crop.  Middle schoolers are people who haven’t yet decided on what kind of kid or person they will be....

Keep Reading

Dear Daughter, Be Kind To Yourself

In: Kids, Motherhood
Mother with toddler and baby, color photo

There are lots of things I know I want to do or be as a mother. One of my biggest challenges and changes is loving myself, but I honestly believe it’s one of the best things I can do for my girls.  Growing up as a girl is intense, and it only seems to be getting more so. Images and unrealistic role models are everywhere you look. Society tries to tell you there are certain ways you should look or certain things you should be doing to try and better yourself.  But hey, you know, we change—our morals, our outlooks,...

Keep Reading

9 Ways To Teach Your Daughter To Love Her Body

In: Motherhood, Teen, Tween
Two girls smiling in sun

Growing up whenever I daydreamed about motherhood, I always thought I’d be a boy mom. I grew up with brothers, I went through a serious tomboy phase in fifth and sixth grades, and I love sports. It simply seemed like life was prepping me to be a mother of boys. Yep, a mom of several boys. That would be the natural progression of motherhood for me. Well, that’s not the case. I am now a mom to two beautiful daughters who twirl, sing, dress up, and act like princesses most of the day. And I love it. I’ve fully embraced...

Keep Reading