Hey farmer,

I need you to hear something right now. I need you to hear this loud and clear: I’m so sorry for everything this year has thrown at you. I’m so sorry for all the things you cannot control that put so much weight on you.

But hear me—YOU are not defined by this year’s crop. Or this year’s income. Or this year’s “success”. 

You are not the farm. You are more than the farm.

I saw you leave again this morning, smiling, but still carrying the stress. I know the first thing you did was drive down by the creek to see how much the water has receded. After you do chores in flooded pastures, you’ll sit with your Dad to try and figure out what fields might dry out the fastest and what, if anything, can be done while you wait.

You’ll run the numbers another time or two, to see if it all makes sense. You’ll run through the calendar a few more times, to count down how many days you have left to get caught up on work.

We both know you’re never going to be caught up.

You’re standing there, facing wet fields and a crop that may not generate enough income to cover its own expenses, hay fields that can’t be cut, and calves that don’t quit eating just because it’s wet. In your head, you’re hearing the clock—tick, tick, tick—counting down the hours you’ve got to do the work you’re so far behind on.

I know that even though you keep smiling and laughing, the stress is getting heavier each day. I see it in your eyes. I feel it in the way you toss and turn all night.

So I need you to hear me again—YOU ARE NOT THE FARM.

You are a man who works harder than anyone I know. You are a man who is honest to a fault. You are a man who always finds new ways, better ways. You are a man who can keep the big picture in mind while maintaining laser focus on the details. You are a man who quietly and humbly prays for God to help you on the tasks He’s laid before you.

You’re a husband. A father. A son. A brother and an uncle. You are a farmer, a damn good one too, but you are not defined by the farm.

Your family and friends—we love you, regardless of your corn yield or planted acres or the price you sell your calves for.

We will get through this year—one, rainy, wet day at a time.

Together, with the strength and guidance of God, we will get through this.

Your wife

Originally published on the author’s blog

Kate Lambert

Kate and her husband Matt live and farm in north-central Missouri. Kate did not grow up on a farm and is passionate about sharing the truths of modern agriculture with those outside of the farming world.