Who you marry matters.

I’ll say it again for the ladies in the back who are currently in a relationship they just aren’t sure about.

“But he gives me butterflies. He sends me sweet texts that make my heart beat a little faster. He takes me on cute planned-out date nights. He pays for everything. He surprises me with flowers delivered to my work.”

Sure, those ARE all great things and definitely a sweet part of being in a relationship.

BUT — What does his character look like? Who is he when no one is watching?

When things don’t go as planned, what is his response? What is his relationship with Jesus like? What about his prayer life? Where are his priorities? Are his words uplifting and life-giving? How does he treat other people? How does he lead you?

Because let me tell you a little something I’ve learned in our short 4 years of marriage. The roses on the counter don’t mean a dang thing when your new baby has been inconsolably crying for three hours straight. When the exhaustion and sleep deprivation hit hard and you’ve cried more tears than you even thought you had. When you haven’t left the house in a week, haven’t showered, and can’t remember the last time you brushed your teeth or sat down to eat a full meal.

Marry the man who will take the screaming baby as soon as he gets home from a long day at work and tells you to go grab a latte. Marry the man who hovers over your daughter at bath time every single night and prays over her sweet life.

Because life isn’t always rainbows & butterflies. And who you marry matters.

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Sisi Byrd

Sisi Byrd is a wife and momma who has a passionate heart for loving and serving others. You can usually find Sisi sipping on an oat milk latte, binge watching Friday Night Lights, ordering chicken tenders at a fancy steak house, or snuggled up on the couch with her little family. Her heart beats for deep conversations and adventure.