It will easily be one of the hardest days of your life. And nothing will be able to change that.
For most little girls, you have a vision or a plan for your future. Most importantly, your wedding day. Your mom is there, helping you from start to finish. Dress shopping, flower shopping, and everything in between. She’s zipping up your dress the morning of the big day, and brushing the hair back from your face. Your tough dad tears up as he walks in and sees you in your dress. Your mom cries as she sees you walk down the aisle, hand in hand with your dad, and of course, the father-daughter dance.
But, some of us don’t get that lucky.
Instead, we get a brother-in-law, an uncle, or a brother walking us down the aisle. You won’t see your mom’s face smiling at you as you walk toward your forever. Just the thought of a father-daughter dance brings you to tears. And these are just a few things that leave you feeling empty on one of the biggest days of your life.
But, in the midst of the heartache, there’s an overpowering sense of joy. You have found the one who has vowed to love you forever. To love all of you—especially your heart that will always have a piece missing—but with him, it feels a little more complete. You’re welcomed into a family, also vowing to love you as their own. There’s a special way your loved ones pick up the pieces and make it possible for you to still have the best day of your life on what is also one of the hardest days of your life.
You will find little ways to still include them in your day that bring a little bit of comfort.
Their pictures around your bouquet so they are both close to you at the altar. A garter made out of your dad’s shirt, so there’s a piece of him walking you down the aisle. A memory table with their pictures right next to yours. Any little bit of them there will make their presence felt, and with that brings a tremendous amount of comfort.
Your wedding day will never be the same when your parents are watching from Heaven, but if you close your eyes and listen closely, there will be a calmness felt within. They will be there, always.