A Gift for Mom! 🤍

Dear Husband of an Overwhelmed Wife: She Needs a Break

3 Minute Read

By Lauren Eberspacher

Two friends smiling — Image via Lauren Eberspacher

Alright hubbies, listen up!

It’s just before the school year starts, it’s been the longest summer eeeever. Your wife is probably feeling overwhelmed. She is tired. Maybe cranky. And she hasn’t had a day to herself since March. Here’s what you need to do.

Push. Her. Out. The. Door.

By herself or with a friend.

Fill up the van with gas and tell her not to come home until after dinner.

Remind her what a gift she is to your family. How thankful you are for her. Whether she is a SAHM or a working mom, how proud you are of who she is and who she has stepped up to be during this hard season.

RELATED: I’ve Never Been Tired Like This Before

If you have a little extra cash or gift cards you have been saving, throw that out the door with her, too.

Make her an appointment to get a pedicure.

Remind her where the nearest Starbucks is and make sure she grabs her favorite drink, and pay for her friend, too.

Don’t text her about the kids unless it’s an emergency (or if she forgot her purse or mask at home). But do text her halfway through the day and ask how she is doing.

Let her exhale and enjoy a day full of things she loves.

And when she comes home from her lovely day, a bonus would be to have the dishes cleaned up and the living room somewhat tidy (not perfect, we don’t expect that from you).

RELATED: Moms Are Strong Enough To Carry the Mental Load But Sometimes We Need To Set it Down

And also when she comes home, ask her all about her day. Have her show you what she bought, compliment her cute new toes, and ask her to try on what she bought. She loves to show you those things!

Find JOY in knowing that you have given her a day from heaven as she gets ready to run head-on into a season of uncertainty. A day out won’t fix all her problems, but it will lift her spirits. And what a gift that YOU, sweet husbands, get to give to her.

Marriage takes work. Thankfully, there’s an app that can help! Lasting—the nation’s #1 relationship counseling app—provides accessible sessions designed to help you build a healthy marriage. Download and take Lasting’s free Relationship Health Assessment.

Recommendations in this post contain affiliate links. Her View From Home may receive a small commission if you choose to purchase.

Originally published on From Blacktop to Dirt Road

So God Made a Grandmother book by Leslie Means

If you liked this, you'll love our book, SO GOD MADE A GRANDMA

Order Now!

Lauren Eberspacher

I'm Lauren and I'm a work-in-progress farmer's wife, coffee addict, follower of Jesus and a recovering perfectionist. When I don't have my three kids attached at my hip, you can find me bringing meals into the fields, dancing in my kitchen, making our house a home, and chatting over a piece of pie with my girl friends. I'm doing my best to live my life intentionally seeking all that God has for me and my family. Follow me at: www.fromblacktoptodirtroad.com From Blacktop to Dirt Road on Facebook laurenspach on Instagram

To the Woman Who Was Betrayed

In: Living, Marriage

He promised you a lifetime, a family, safety, and security. You carried life and brought it into this world for him. Even still, in the trenches of postpartum, he betrayed you. It was never your fault. This is something I’ve fought to tell myself every single day since the day I discovered my marriage was never meant to last. Because the truth is, betrayal is never about you; it’s about them, and the character flaws deep within they’d rather bury than face. He watched as you fought for your life after delivery while your tiny, premature newborn spent the first...

Keep Reading

10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before My Marriage Ended

In: Marriage

I’m a year and a half into my still-husband filing for a divorce I didn’t see coming (but probably should have), and I’m here to say: hindsight doesn’t yield perfect vision, but it does bring clarity. While that clarity might not always make perfect sense, it does make processing it all a bit more tangible. Here are 10 things I wish I knew before my marriage ended–abruptly and unilaterally. Effort should feel mutual, not one-sided and minimal. The handmade birthday weekend itineraries year after year, the endless putting-him-on-a-pedestal, the desperate asks to go out on actual dates, the late-night research...

Keep Reading

Love Is Saying “I’m Still Here”

In: Marriage

Some days don’t feel romantic at all. They feel like alarms going off too early, coffee gone cold, kids who need everything at once, and a to-do list that keeps growing no matter how much you check off. They feel like passing each other in the kitchen with tired eyes and half-finished sentences. They feel like wondering how it’s only Tuesday. And yet, somewhere in the middle of all that, there’s this quiet, steady thing holding it together. Not fireworks. Not big, sweeping moments. Just a simple, consistent choice. We’re still in this. Together. Marriage, at its core, isn’t built...

Keep Reading

No One Plans to Wear the “Scarlet Letter” of Divorce

In: Living, Marriage

Divorce often feels like the scarlet letter no one talks about. Some in our generation may call it “trendy”—particularly as women have become more independent and empowered—but whether it’s socially acceptable or not, it is still a label no woman enters marriage expecting to wear. Women are often self-sacrificing—sometimes to a fault. We give and give until our souls feel nearly drained. And in marriages marked by abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, inconsistency, or dishonesty, we still convince ourselves that if we just give a little more, love a little harder, try a little longer, something will change. Divorce is not...

Keep Reading

I Still Can’t Believe You’re Mine

In: Marriage

I still can’t believe you’re mine. Lately, I’ve found myself reflecting on how far we’ve come—two babies, multiple moves, and the weight of a world that hasn’t always been kind. There were seasons when things felt uncertain. Seasons when growth hurt. Seasons when staying required more strength than leaving ever would have. I know not everyone believed we would make it this far. But it was always you. God was leading me to you long before I understood it. In ways I couldn’t see at the time, He was writing a story bigger than my fears, bigger than my doubts,...

Keep Reading

True Love Is Built In the Moments No One Sees

In: Marriage

There is nothing simple about raising a medically complex child. We carry emergency plans the way others carry wallets. Med lists are memorized. Hospital routes are second nature. We measure time in seizures, appointments, medication schedules, and recovery windows. Early Monday morning, after our 10-year-old autistic son was sedated for stitches following a seizure fall, he was sick. My husband held him upright while he vomited. I grabbed towels, trying to catch what I could. We moved in sync—no discussion, no drama, just instinct and practice. And I thought about our marriage. It isn’t glitz and glamour. It’s not candlelit...

Keep Reading

We Fall In Love a Million Times

In: Marriage

Recently, I read a picture book to my children titled Would I Trade My Parents? The book is about a little boy who wishes he could exchange his parents for his friends’ parents. But in the end, he remembers all the amazing things his parents do for him and realizes he wouldn’t trade them after all. He knows they’re the best. After reading this book, my immediate thought was there should be a book for couples called Would I Trade My Partner? Because while we can’t trade our children (or our parents), we most certainly can trade our spouses if we really...

Keep Reading

As a Newly-Single Mom, I’m Learning How To Parent Alone

In: Marriage, Motherhood

Mother with little girl on piggyback walking down road

I have four beautiful children. Each of them is unique, full of purpose, and wonderfully made by God. Being their mom is my greatest joy and my biggest challenge. As a newly single mom, the normal things of adolescence I used to have help governing are now much more difficult to navigate. I constantly worry my unhealed trauma is going to spill out onto my kids and mess them up. Who’s with me? I have teenage daughters. That fact in and of itself is frightening. It is so easy to let them down. I try to meet them where they...

Keep Reading

My Husband Is By My Side Through Every Storm

In: Grief, Marriage

The year 2025 began as a quiet storm. I was slipping into the fog of depression while navigating the early chaos of perimenopause, and some days simply getting out of bed felt impossible. My thoughts felt dark and heavy, my body unfamiliar, my energy nonexistent, and my moods uncontrollable. And yet, in the haze, there was one constant: my husband. He noticed the subtle shifts I barely acknowledged. The sighs, the quiet retreats into myself, the moments I almost broke. Instead of judgment or frustration, he offered presence. He held space for my struggle without trying to “fix” it, and...

Keep Reading

The Love Story Built on Paper and Perseverance

In: Living, Marriage

woman sits on floor with papers spread around her

I still remember the nights when our living room floor disappeared beneath piles of forms, envelopes, and government instructions. I sat cross-legged on the carpet, trying to make sense of words that felt more complicated than they needed to be, holding papers that determined our future in ways I could hardly process. My husband sat nearby, both of us tired, both of us learning patience one page at a time. This was the part of our love story no one prepares you for. Not the dreamy beginning, not the pretty milestones, but the long, exhausting middle. The part filled with...

Keep Reading

Welcome To the Teenage Jungle (You're Still Needed Here)

Motherhood

Welcome To the Teenage Jungle (You're Still Needed Here)

There Won’t Always Be Hot Wheels on My Bedroom Floor

Motherhood

Dear Husband of an Overwhelmed Wife: She Needs a Break

Fill up the van with gas and tell her not to come home until after dinner.

RELATED: I’ve Never Been Tired Like This Before

Let her exhale and enjoy a day full of things she loves.

RELATED: Moms Are Strong Enough To Carry the Mental Load But Sometimes We Need To Set it Down

If you liked this, you'll love our book, SO GOD MADE A GRANDMA

Lauren Eberspacher

To the Woman Who Was Betrayed

10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before My Marriage Ended

Love Is Saying “I’m Still Here”

No One Plans to Wear the “Scarlet Letter” of Divorce

I Still Can’t Believe You’re Mine

True Love Is Built In the Moments No One Sees

We Fall In Love a Million Times

As a Newly-Single Mom, I’m Learning How To Parent Alone

My Husband Is By My Side Through Every Storm

The Love Story Built on Paper and Perseverance

Get It Now

So God Made a Mother

Dear Husband of an Overwhelmed Wife: She Needs a Break

Fill up the van with gas and tell her not to come home until after dinner.

Let her exhale and enjoy a day full of things she loves.

If you liked this, you'll love our book, SO GOD MADE A GRANDMA

To the Woman Who Was Betrayed

10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before My Marriage Ended

Love Is Saying “I’m Still Here”

No One Plans to Wear the “Scarlet Letter” of Divorce

I Still Can’t Believe You’re Mine

True Love Is Built In the Moments No One Sees

We Fall In Love a Million Times

As a Newly-Single Mom, I’m Learning How To Parent Alone

My Husband Is By My Side Through Every Storm

The Love Story Built on Paper and Perseverance

Previous Post

Next Post

You May Also Like