That’s the message Karen Johnson, the blogger behind “The 21st Century SAHM” wants every single woman out there to hear. 

In a Facebook post that’s instantly going viral, Johnson sounds off about the ways mothers are different, from the way they clean or don’t clean their houses, to the religions they may or may not practice—and why none of it matters when it comes to our value as moms. 

“Are stay-at home moms better than working moms? NO. Are working moms better than stay-at-home moms? NO,” she writes.

And what about that yearly debate over who’s doing summer better? She’s got a message about that, too: “Can you be a good mom and have a super scheduled summer with lots of planned activities? Yep. What about if your summer is lazy with no plans? Yep.” 

Simple as that. 

Johnson says the words poured out of her after being on the receiving end of one too many comments about the way she’s raising her kids. “I’ve been blasted for drinking alcohol, not having a clean house, being a helicopter parent, not watching my kids enough…” she said. “I’m just tired of the judgment and sanctimommies.” 

And in today’s social media saturated world, where it feels like everything we do or say as parents is judged on Facebook or scrutinized on Instagram, isn’t it refreshing to hear it boiled down to what really matters? WE matter. Not what kind of shoes we buy for our kids, or how often we order up cheeseburgers and fries (with a large Coke on the side for ourselves), or all those times we yell when no one is moving fast enough to just get out the door already WE’RE GOING TO BE LATE!

I have a poster hanging in my kitchen that I read every day. It’s a picture of a mother hen, hands on her hips, staring at her chicks, saying “I’m the mommy, that’s why.” 

And I think that’s the takeaway from Johnson’s post: YOU’RE the mommy. You do you, raise your awesome kids, and support all the other mothers out there who are doing the same. 

Because we are all pretty freaking amazing moms.


Carolyn Moore

Carolyn has served as Editor-in-Chief of Her View From Home since 2017. A long time ago, she worked in local TV news and fell in love with telling stories—something she feels grateful to help women do every day at HVFH. She lives in flyover country with her husband and four kids but is really meant to be by the ocean with a good book and a McDonald's fountain Coke.