Often with clients, frustrations arise due to dysfunctional relationships in their lives. Work relationships, family relationships and romantic relationships all have the potential to cause extra stress in our lives. It is important to recognize our feelings and identify patterns. If someone in your life is continuously letting you down, it may be time to ask “what should I expect?” Truly, what should you expect from this person? Are you consistently unhappy because you have expectations of this person that they are unable to meet?
When it comes to the people in our lives we need to recognize and accept where their strengths lie. Often, and more importantly, we need to recognize where their weaknesses lie. We have to adapt to the different people in our lives so that we can best appreciate them. Would it make sense to spend years frustrated with your cat because it refuses to learn to play fetch, and mad at your dog because it will not learn to use the litter box? Of course not. Learn to appreciate those around you for what gifts they have to offer, not merely what you want out of them.
Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being.