Dear Husbands, It's the Little Things That Make All the Difference

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Dear husbands,

We want you to know it’s the little things that make all the difference.

It’s the “I Love You” sticky notes.

It’s a short handwritten letter.

It’s the folded stack of towels.

It’s the unloaded dishwasher.

It’s a good morning kiss.

It’s a goodbye hug.

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It’s the morning coffee waiting on the counter.

It’s the way you never forget to end a phone call with, “I Love You.”

It’s asking “How are you really?”

It’s the supportive glance from across the room.

It’s the soft touch underneath the table letting me know everything is OK.

It’s when you ask to pray for me.

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It’s when you reach out your hand.

It’s when you say, “Let me do it.”

It’s when you brag about me.

It’s when you make me blush.

It’s a silly meme.

It’s a surprise date night to our favorite local spot.

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It’s binge watching the latest tv series.

It’s the way you still make me feel after all these years.

Husbands trust us, we love the big things and the big moments too, but mostly it’s all of the little everyday moments that mean the most.

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Nicole Burke

I’m a newlywed and new farm wife living with my husband in rural northern Illinois. In addition to helping on the farm, I also work an off the farm job doing content marketing for my family’s John Deere dealership. I enjoy sharing all things farm life, faith, marriage and lifestyle! To find out more, visit me on Instagram or my blog at Midwest Farm Wifey!

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Dear Husbands, It’s the Little Things That Make All the Difference

It’s a good morning kiss.

It’s when you ask to pray for me.

It’s the way you still make me feel after all these years.

If you liked this, you'll love our new book, SO GOD MADE A MOTHER available now!

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