We Married Young and I Don't Regret it For a Moment

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Yes, I am 20 and married. Yes, I have heard it all.

“Your brains aren’t fully developed until you’re 25.”

“You haven’t even finished college.”

“What’s the hurry?”

“You’ve never dated anyone before, don’t rush into things.”

“You have your whole life ahead of you.”

“This isn’t a smart decision.”

“How are you going to live?”

“How is he going to support you?”

“You’re just kids.”

My personal favorite which is usually asked by young college girls: “Aren’t you scared you’ll miss out on things?”

Don’t worry, 99 percent of the time I know exactly what they mean by “things” (parties, getting drunk and wild).

Honestly, I’m not sure when or why being young and married became such a “bad” thing.

Don’t get me wrong—we don’t have it all figured out and will never claim to. I know marriage is a huge commitment and something you will have to work at for the rest of your life because I know it will not always be happy smiles. Some days it will be hard, very trying, and your faith will be tested, but guess what, y’all? When I’m 80 I will be able to tell my children I have been married to their dad for 60 years! I get to spend the rest of my life taking on adventures with my best friend (travel partner for life).

I literally get to grow old with my husband.

I will still finish college. I will always have someone to laugh and cry with. I will still do everything I wanted to do in life; getting married will not stop me from that.

If I know one thing for sure about being young and married it’s that this love will always be worth it.

I feel so blessed that the Lord saw me fit to meet the love of my life so early in life and I will forever be thankful for it.

If you see marriage as the end of your freedom, you’re doing it wrong. This is just the beginning of our adventure.

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Adaline Meredith

My name is Adaline Meredith, I am a college student at Western Kentucky University. I graduate with my BSW (Bachelors in Social Work) in December. I am married to my high school sweetheart (Dalton as pictured in the post). And I am a dog mom to two perfect doggies Jaxx and Capone.

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