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How do you get it back? How do you get back the love you once had? Everyone told me marriage was hard and having kids was hard, but I had no idea it would be this hard.

I thought everyone was lying because our relationship was solid before marriage. We were best friends.

Some days I feel like we’re roommates who share the same kids. It disgusts me even to say that, but it’s the truth. Marriage is hard and has ugly sides to it that everyone seems afraid to talk about.

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The honeymoon stage doesn’t last forever. Bills come due and then children come and somewhere along the way we lose our spark.

We lost what made us . . . us. And it’s sad.

Sometimes I wonder if my husband still sees me as that skinny, size 1, energy-filled, spunky, young, 19-year-old who loved to stay out all night and have fun.

The problem is that girl is gone.

I’m a 29-year-old devoted mother, and that takes all my time and energy. When 8 o’clock at night approaches, I’m ready to go to bed with my kids.

I know this is just a season. A season of growing, maturing, and finding ourselves in our adult life.

The enemy attacks our minds and makes me feel this way. The enemy knows I’m discouraged, so he will come for what’s important to me.

My God is bigger than the thoughts trying to tear my marriage down.

We will find our way back to the couple we were before life got hard.

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James 4:8 tells us if we draw near to the Lord, He will draw near to us. Trusting God means walking through the darkest of valleys while reaching the mountaintop.

If you feel the same way about your marriage, just know that in this time of hopelessness, we have to be ready to face all the battles that come our way because the same hands that parted the sea are the same hands piecing our lives back together.

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