Inspiration Journal

Mom Life Crash Course

Mom Life Crash Course www.herviewfromhome.com
Written by Amy Lu

Some days, I wake up and think that this day will be just like every other day. I drink my coffee, take care of the kids, and slip into my normal routine. Then, life happens, and nothing goes the way I’d hoped.

On an unsuspecting morning like this, I had promised to run an errand to help my mom go shopping for a special event. So, she arranged for someone to watch my daughter for a few hours. I thought about taking my daughter shopping with us, but figured it would be easiest to only take my three-month-old.

When I got back from our shopping trip, I immediately spotted a lump in daughters diaper. I quickly learned that she told the babysitter that she didn’t poop, so the babysitter believed her. Side note, if a two-year-old ever tells you they didn’t poop — don’t listen to them! Normally, this wouldn’t be such a big deal, except my daughter was getting three of her molars in. Whenever she is teething, it is more likely that she will get a diaper rash, if she is not changed promptly. Knowing this about her, I immediately scooped her up and laid her on the changing table. As soon as I opened her diaper, I saw her poor bum was red and inflamed.

My daughter was a mess, tears streaming down her little cheeks telling me it hurt. From the past, I knew this meant that she would need to go at least a few days without a diaper, to keep the diaper rash from worsening. I was now faced with trying to chase a naked toddler around, while caring for my three-month-old too. Any mom knows that something like this adds considerable more stress to the daily routines. I felt overwhelmed and frustrated.

When I go through something difficult like this situation, I often wonder why it is happening to me. Usually, there isn’t a clear answer to that question. However, here’s what I have learned: Sometimes, when we go through something painful, it gives us a chance to relate better to others. We gain more compassion and empathy for the scenarios another person might be facing.

And really, that’s what it’s all about. Connecting with others. As parents and moms especially, we need each other. The simple power of feeling support from another person is refreshing. Knowing there is another person in this world that understands what you are going through is strangely comforting.

It’s in our relationships with others that we are able to find love, support, and encouragement. So, thank you to all the moms who are honest and vulnerable. The woman we can turn to when we need someone to confide in. The mother who tells us that we can get through it. The friend who reminds us that we aren’t the only one who has cried on the bathroom floor, so we don’t feel alone.

You inspire us. You support us. You are us.

About the author

Amy Lu

I am a Midwest mama from Michigan who enjoys sharing parenting and pregnancy resources with parents of young children on the blog, http://www.makingmotherhoodmatter.com/. If you enjoy free parenting resources, delicious recipes, and discovering what you really need for newborns, then grab a cup of coffee and come hang out at Making Motherhood Matter. I would love to connect with you on Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or the Positive Parenting Tools Community.

29 Comments

  • We all have those days and sometimes weeks. Like the way you express turning it into a learning experience and one where yes we lived through this and I can help someone else in need.

  • “Knowing there is another person in this world that understands what you are going through is strangely comforting.” So true! That is why this site is so great; moms don’t have to feel so alone!

  • We have all felt like this and have to remember we are not alone. It is tough some days being a mom but we make it through it and know that tomorrow will be a better day. Thanks for sharing.

  • Thanks for sharing this, we´ve all been there and I think the only thing we can do is support other moms around us and being honest about these moments… No need to keep up appearances that motherhood is only beautiful, it can also be very hard!

    • Yes, so many times we see only the highlights of others lives, but sometimes being a parent is hard. And sometimes it is amazing. I agree with you that it’s so important to be honest about both the highs and the lows.

  • I remember when our boys were little and how crazy things could get. It’s amazing how the little things can snowball into bigger things when it comes to parenting. As you say, having good support from the people around you makes all the difference.

    • Yes, Dave, it is crazy how the smallest situation can turn so quickly. I am so grateful for my support system of family and friends for that reason.

  • Parenting is tough… and each phase brings challenges… and more fun! But you are so right about connecting with other moms and parents and getting support of others! I think that’s real important!

  • I am in currently dealing with my own teething little one and thank goodness for my mom friends! I think I would have lost it long ago if it wasn’t for them!

  • You’ve got this mama and I can totally relate.

    I wish at times that more parents would be real about how they feel and things they go through. Social media can be deceiving as most people only post the good moments and hide away the tough times. Thanks for your honesty.

    • Thanks, Amber. I am so glad you can relate. Yes, social media can totally play into my perception of how other moms seem to do it all. For me it’s so important to have a community I can be real with.

  • I love this. We need to support each other more and judge less. Lately, our 2.5 years old is fighting us during the bedtime routine every night (putting on a diaper, pajamas, brushing teeth and getting in bed).

  • What a wonderful post, Amy! Filled with compassion and acceptance of the bad times life throws at us. We need to support each other when things get stressing. I can relate as an older sister who helped raise two younger siblings, as a spiritual mom and as a human being whose accident from two months ago – and having to use a wheelchair – added so much stress, but at the same time, helped me realize how much my family is there for me.

    Big hugs!

    ~ Luana

  • Thank you for this! I’m due in July with our first and I know I’m going to make my share of mistakes, but posts like this remind me that we are all just doing our best!

  • We all make mistakes. My one year old was teething last month and her diaper rash was AWFUL. We are only working on tooth #2 so we have a LONG way to go! Thanks for linking up with Friday Funday and we hope you come back next week!