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Respect The Men You Love

Written by Jenny

“A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.” ~Billy Graham

I have started to notice an epidemic going on.  It started way back with The Flintstones, where dads and husbands were stupid and just-one-of-the-boys.  It’s since progressed to Facebook jokes, Homer on The Simpsons, or and the infamous relationship of Debra and Raymond on Everybody Loves Raymond.  

I don’t know about you but I’m tired of the media portraying men especially husbands and dads as incompetent, lazy, childish, and useless. Have you ever thought about what this is teaching our children?

I’m raising 5 kids.  I don’t want any of them growing up to think that being a dad is unimportant, that their wives will wait on them hand and foot, or that they can act stupid to get out of being a good husband or dad.  I also don’t want my kids to think that men are wimpy, dumb, and can lie to get what they want or get out of having to be responsible.  I don’t want my daughter to settle for a weak, childish, boy because that is what she has seen on television.

Luckily, the media is not raising the children at my house and hopefully not at yours, either.  However, the media is very influential and we all need to intentionally parent our kids, showing them love and respect so they grow up knowing what that is!

It is important to respect the men we love.  Here’s a great way to show some R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

R- Recognize that dads do things differently than moms.

Men and women are different.  Dads kiss boo-boos differently, deal with sibling arguments differently, feed kids “dad food”, dress the children differently than mom, and change diapers differently than mom does.  Dads tend to rough house more than moms do.  Each time that he does something differently than you gives your child an opportunity to experience something new or different.  And that is ok (and sometimes it’s better than mom does, if we allow it to happen).

E- Encourage your husband.

Let your husband know what a blessing he is to your family.  Write him sweet notes and texts letting him know what a great dad and husband he is.  Be his cheerleader!  There are many grown boys in the world but there is only one man that you chose to be your husband and father of your children.  He’s special, don’t let him forget that.

S- Speak kind words.

Don’t complain about your husband to others.  It’s rude and hurtful.  It’s also harmful to your marriage.  If you wouldn’t want someone to say those things about you in front of your children, you shouldn’t do it about your husband, either.

P- Pray.

If you struggle with respect or have a difficult relationship, pray about it.  If you need help getting started, you are welcome to check out my short series, 31 Days Of Scripture to Pray For Your Husband.

E- Embrace his unique qualities!

My father-in-law and my husband both like to joke with the kids.  The kids love being silly with them!  Each dad has his own fun qualities that make him special.  Embrace those qualities, chances are you love those characteristics as well!

C- Communicate!

Most arguments happen because there is a misunderstanding.  By communicating your expectations clearly you can avoid silly arguments, misunderstandings, and hurt feelings.  Have you learned your spouse’s love language (gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service or physical touch)?  When you communicate in your spouse’s love language magical things can happen in your relationship!

T- Teach others how to be respectful by modeling it every day. 

Children learn by what they see, not what they are told to do.  Let your kids know that their father works hard to support your family and they are so lucky because he is the best.  Don’t encourage your friends bashing their spouses.  Be a marriage builder. 

How do you show the men in your life respect?

About the author

Jenny

Hi! I’m Jenny! I grew up on a farm in between the 2 small towns of North Loup and Scotia, Nebraska. I spent my childhood chasing cattle, laying out irrigation pipe, bottle feeding bucket calves and racing turtles at Popcorn Days.

My husband, Jason and I live on a farm south of Kearney and I am blessed to be a stay at home mom to 5 energetic kids and wife to my favorite farmer! Our oldest daughter is 11, our boy/girl twins are 7, our son is 5 and youngest daughter is 3.

I created my blog, Women With Intention (http://womenwithintention.com) where you will find tools for living your purpose, managing your home, saving money, simplifying, growing your faith, loving your family and relationships, and embracing the season of life you are in. I believe that each woman can have it all, but not necessarily have it all at the same time!

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  • Love this! The man-hating has always driven me bonkers too!

  • It should be natural to respect them if we love them but well we are none of us perfect. Love the R.E.S.P.E.C.T I tend to do a lot of that in teaching kids in Sunday School but that’s because it is a good way to keep those things in our memories.

  • Be a marriage builder. This list is so good. I will be sharing!

  • Visiting from Women with Intention

    I definitely agree with your words. My husband is more of the caretaker than I am, and I don’t see him as lazy or an oaf. He’s a great man and a great father, someone who breaks his back everyday taking care of her and working a full time job.

    liz @ sundays with sophie

  • I couldn’t agree more. this is especially important when raising boys.

  • Elizabeth

    I really appreciate this! When “husband-bashing” seems to be the norm, posts like this are so encouraging! Thank you for this~

    Elizabeth
    allkindsofthingsblog.com

  • The husband/dad bashing annoys me, too. I know from experience that not all dads step up to the plate, but let’s not lump them all into one pile.I love your RESPECT acrostic! Sharing. 🙂

  • I love this, I think very highly of all the men in my life and I want my daughter to grow up respecting the men in her life. Yes dads definitely have their own ways of doing things and can be more laid back but that isn’t always a bad thing. Respect is a two way street, we as women expect men to respect us and so we should offer the same courtesy. Fab post!

  • I LOVE this!!!!! I am all about respecting the men in my life, especially my husband. They are created to crave respect, just as we are created to crave romance. Stopping by from Woman with Intention.

  • Courtney Salmon

    All this is soo true. Part of our “jobs” as wives is to respect our husbands and encourage them to be the “head” of our families.