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We are in that stage as a family. We are still in our baby making years and already have two little girls at home. The itch to have another is something that is on our hearts more often than not. And that question gets asked of us more often than you would think.

“So, are you going to try for a boy this time?”

Now let me be perfectly clear. Yes. We would love if God would bless us with a son. Yes. We have dreams of raising a little boy who would desire to take over the family farm. And Yes. I would love to adorn a little boy with bow ties, sweater vests and fedoras. But that question you just asked me, it gives me all kinds of feelings. And they are feelings that I’m trying to align with His plan.

You see, being a mom to just girls has been nothing but a crazy blessing. All day long we change in and out of dress up clothes, throw the most fabulous tea parties, twirl to princess music and have our fair share of sisterly drama. Our oldest has dreams of growing up to be a singer and our youngest loves to chew the fingers off of Barbie dolls when her sister isn’t looking. And although the desire to have a little boy of our own is strong and real, what if God is calling us to something different?

What if having a son is not what God has for us? And what if we are trying to be ok with that?

What if His plan for us as parents is to raise Godly women for His glory?

As Christian parents of young women, our greatest and most heartfelt desire is that our girls would learn to love Christ and His truth. Our souls yearn for nothing more than to see our daughters follow hard after God. And we are doing our best to help them learn that; helping them to understand that God made them uniquely as women to fill a purpose that only they can. We are desperately trying to teach them that speaking words of Godly wisdom and looking for ways to show actions of kindness is the heart they should be striving for. We are already pouring into them about the truth that modesty and purity is the most beautiful trait to have and that they have the unique opportunity to not be a stumbling block for young men around them.

I have the responsibility to model a wife who desires to love and serve my husband and a mother who teaches kindness and patience to my children. And my husband has the responsibility to show them what a man of God looks like; the kind of man who one day will capture her heart and take her as his own. And we have the choice, no, the JOY, to teach them how to be faithful women of God who know that who they are in Christ is more than this world will ever offer them. It’s one of the greatest honors that we have this side of heaven.

So the next time you ask us that question, one day if we have the privilege of having a son, we will do our best to raise a man of God. But until then, we are raising daughters of the King. And if daughters are what He has planned for us, then let us raise them well.

While wearing glittery tutus….

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Lauren Eberspacher

I'm Lauren and I'm a work-in-progress farmer's wife, coffee addict, follower of Jesus and a recovering perfectionist. When I don't have my three kids attached at my hip, you can find me bringing meals into the fields, dancing in my kitchen, making our house a home, and chatting over a piece of pie with my girl friends. I'm doing my best to live my life intentionally seeking all that God has for me and my family. Follow me at: www.fromblacktoptodirtroad.com From Blacktop to Dirt Road on Facebook laurenspach on Instagram

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