This past week, the winds and rain have threatened the oneness and unity in our marriage and home like never before. They came without warning. 

Why do we fight like we’re against each other, instead of for one another?

We know the truth. We know better, but sometimes emotions fly too high and we act like children. 

Our sinful natures can be so nasty, but I want you to know I’m sorry for not building up our home. I’ve torn it down with my selfishness, disrespect, careless words, nagging attitude, and resentment.

Our uncontrolled yelling has affected our children negatively, too. They understand much more than we give them credit. But it doesn’t have to be this way. The choice is up to us.

I want them to see us loving one another more. I want them to see us kissing, embracing, hugging, enjoying being together, and making amends. I want them to see a different wife and mommy, husband and daddy, who is braver in the battle against sin and struggles. I know I’ve been pretty cowardly lately.

Can you and I hit the restart button? Can we begin building our home together again instead of tearing it down with our hands? Can we be two good forgivers who are willing to do whatever it takes to be one in spirit, mind, and body? 

You are my lover and best friend, not my enemy. You are God’s provision and protection for my life. That crisp fall day he brought you into my life, I knew it was a gift not to be taken for granted. It wasn’t coincidence, either.

God has made my life rich because of you and I’m a better person than I was on the day we said “I do”—promising to love and cherish one another in sickness and in health. Joyful and challenging, these 14 years have made me stronger and opened my eyes to realities and dreams I never saw before.

Let’s continue building on a solid foundation so when the winds and rains come uninvited again, we’ll be able to stand stronger. Two is always better than one.

Let’s be an example to our children of what it means to sacrificially and selflessly love one another no matter what comes our way- no matter how difficult it gets. 

Let’s be quick to ask forgiveness and show our children what love looks like. It isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it. 

Will you forgive me for not taking our vows seriously? In God’s strength, I commit to relying on his power and healing to change me, our marriage, and family life. There’s too much at stake if we don’t keep fighting for our marriage and family.

We’re living out our legacy and little eyes are always watching. Let’s move forward . . . bravely building our home together.

I love you.

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Samantha Krieger

Samantha Krieger is a pastor's wife and mom to four children, 12 and under. She's the author of Quiet Time: A 30-day Devotional Retreat for Moms in the Trenches. She writes from rural Colorado and enjoys connecting with readers on her personal blogFacebook and Instagram.