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One day, I hope to be friends with my daughter.

I hope that the same little girl who likes to help me make tea will one day call me for coffee.

Right now, mine is the only number she knows.

And I hope she won’t forget how to use it when she learns how to dial so many others.

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I hope that she doesn’t stop telling me what she thinks she can’t tell me.

I hope at 2 a.m. when her tire is flat, I’m the one she knows will answer.

I don’t want to go through preteen years where I’m not cool and she is cold.

I don’t want fro-yo trips to stop solving all our problems,

I hope she calls because she can’t remember how to make green bean casserole.

And I hope she calls because she did remember.

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I hope she texts me after bad dates.

And I hope she sends me all the screenshots.

I hope that when the time comes for her not to need me, that she decides she still wants me.

One day, I hope to be friends with my daughter.

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One day, I hope to be friends with my daughter. I hope that the same little girl who likes to help me make tea, Will one day call me for coffee. Right now, Mine is the only number she knows. And I hope she won’t forget how to use it, When she learns how to dial so many others. I hope that she doesn’t stop telling me what she thinks she can’t tell me. I hope at 2am, When her tire is flat, I’m the one she knows will answer. I don’t want to go through preteen years where I’m not cool, and she is cold. I don’t want fro-yo trips to stop solving all our problems, I hope she calls because she can’t remember how to make green bean casserole. And I hope she calls because she did remember. I hope she texts me after bad dates. And I hope she sends me all the screenshots. I hope that when the time comes for her not to need me, That she decides that she still wants me. One day, I hope to be friends with my daughter. To see more from Heather follow I’m That Wife on Facebook.

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Dr. Heather Thompson Day

Dr. Heather Thompson Day is an interdenominational speaker and contributor for Religion News Service, Newsweek and the Barna Group. She is also an Associate Professor of Communication at Colorado Christian University. She is passionate about supporting women, and runs an online community called I’m That Wife which has over 100k followers. Heather has been interviewed by BBC Radio Live, and believes her calling is to stand in the gaps of our churches for young people. She is the author of 6 books; including Confessions of a Christian Wife and How to Feed the Mediavore. She resides in Lakewood, Colorado with her husband, Pastor Seth Day, and their three children, London, Hudson, and Sawyer Day.

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