Dear boy mom,

Your life will not be a perfect one.

You will be scared more times than not because of their fearless nature.

You will pull over on the side of the road just to look at tractors and diggers and cement mixers.

You will be able to name every single dinosaur and you will be so proud when your son can do the same thing.

You will cry sometimes in your car and question if you are doing this whole boy mom thing right.

You will try to find the balance to teach them to be strong and brave but also find yourself telling them they can be sensitive and kind and both at the same time.

You will find yourself stepping out of your own comfort zone because of them.

You will find yourself laughing a little more and becoming a little more fearless all because of them.

You will sit there on the sidelines cheering them on at games and in life.

You will be there to remind them that mom is always here no matter what.

You will build forts, travel to space, go on an adventure in the jungle and never leave your living room.

You will know the sweetness in their hugs and the power behind their “I love you Mom” after a day that’s seemed less than perfect and more like complete chaos.

You will begin to instill in them when they are young that they need to honor their spouses, treat people with respect and kindness regardless of their background or social status.

You will find yourself teaching them to not just be good boys, but good men. Men who strive to look for the good in this world and when they can’t find it, they become it. Men who aren’t afraid to speak their minds with compassion. Men who will sit with the broken and cry with them because they know crying isn’t just for girls it’s for grown men too.

You will know the heartache in raising them to one day leave you but you will do it anyway.

You will know that being a boy mom is difficult at times but you will feel how it’s changed you for the better.

Then one day, someone will ask you what it’s like to be a boy mom.

They will be scared and nervous and you will smile and tell them you wouldn’t want to be anything else.

This article originally appeared on Grief To Hope with Nikki Pennington

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Nikki Pennington

Nikki is a stay at home mom to three, high spirited boys. Three years ago she became a motherless daughter after losing her own mom to terminal brain cancer. When she is not playing the role of referee for the boys, she spends her days trying to encourage and inspire others that are on the grief journey. Read more from Nikki on her blog: